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Hi everybody, and welcome to o/LovingWomen! Before you start posting and chatting, please read these rules thoroughly so we're all on the same page.

o/LovingWomen is a space for women who love, are attracted to, and engage in relationships with women to connect, thrive, and build a genuine community in solidarity with one another.

This circle is a female only space. Men are not allowed and will be banned.

This circle is also a same sex attracted space. Straight (heterosexual) women are not allowed and will be banned. Along with our rules, you must follow Ovarit’s sitewide rules and guidelines, which will also be enforced by the moderators of this circle.

  1. No content posted by people who are not female-sex AND same sex attracted (biological woman attracted to biological women). Participation by males, even those who do not identify as male, is not allowed. Participation by straight women is also not allowed. Posters in violation will be banned. Yes, commenting counts as posting.

  2. This circle is a female-focused space. As such, discussion about men must directly relate to one’s experience of same-sex relationships/attraction, or the like, or the post will be removed.

  3. Assume good faith. The rest of the internet is a toxic place and has taught us to attack first in defense of ourselves. Please refrain from being preemptively belligerent or defensive, as we begin to form our own culture and try to unlearn such behaviors.

  4. No criticism of sexual boundaries. "Sexual boundaries" means a description of any circumstances under which a person is not willing to engage in a relationship and/or sex. Suggesting that others' sexual boundaries are closed-minded, bigoted, or otherwise wrong is not permitted here. Suggesting that others should change, or re-examine with the intent of changing, their sexual boundaries is also considered criticism and is not permitted.

  5. No slurs or pejoratives. Slurs and pejorative language include but are not limited to ‘TERF’, 'tranny', etc. The moderating team reserve the right to evaluate language on a case by case basis. Insults, name calling, ad hominem attacks, and other language used specifically to derail discussion or target another user will not be tolerated. Use of 'cis' or 'cisgender' is okay as long as it not being used as a slur, e.g. referring to yourself as 'cis' if fine, but forcing that label on another woman is not. Basically, just don't call any other woman on o/LovingWomen 'cis' or 'cisgender'.

  6. No brigading or vote manipulation.

  7. No pornography. NSFW posts are okay as long as they are not pornography and they are marked as NSFW.

  8. Gender-critical or trans-critical content must be focused on relationships with women, attraction to women, or the like, or it will be removed.

  9. No derailing or hijacking. Derailing/Hijacking is posting a comment to another subscriber's thread that changes the topic of discussion from the OP's topic to that of the comment. This often leads to the original discussion shutting down whilst the new discussion continues. This will not be permitted here.

  10. No attacks, insults, or reciprocation. Do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult other subscribers. You can disagree with the OP of a topic or a commenter, but you cannot attack them. If you are attacked by another subscriber, please use the report button instead of reciprocating. If you reciprocate, you will be in violation of this rule the same as your attacker.

  11. This is not a circle for selfies or memes. This circle would rather prioritize discussions instead of turning into a selfie or meme parade. For your own safety, we will not be allowing selfie posts. We may begin a weekly meme post if there's demand.

  12. No spam or self promotion. The content will be removed and the poster will be banned after a second offense.

Hi everybody, and welcome to o/LovingWomen! Before you start posting and chatting, please read these rules thoroughly so we're all on the same page. o/LovingWomen is a space for women who love, are attracted to, and engage in relationships with women to connect, thrive, and build a genuine community in solidarity with one another. This circle is a female only space. Men are not allowed and will be banned. This circle is also a same sex attracted space. Straight (heterosexual) women are not allowed and will be banned. Along with our rules, you must follow Ovarit’s sitewide rules and guidelines, which will also be enforced by the moderators of this circle. 1. No content posted by people who are not female-sex AND same sex attracted (biological woman attracted to biological women). Participation by males, even those who do not identify as male, is not allowed. Participation by straight women is also not allowed. Posters in violation will be banned. Yes, commenting counts as posting. 2. This circle is a female-focused space. As such, discussion about men must directly relate to one’s experience of same-sex relationships/attraction, or the like, or the post will be removed. 3. Assume good faith. The rest of the internet is a toxic place and has taught us to attack first in defense of ourselves. Please refrain from being preemptively belligerent or defensive, as we begin to form our own culture and try to unlearn such behaviors. 4. No criticism of sexual boundaries. "Sexual boundaries" means a description of any circumstances under which a person is not willing to engage in a relationship and/or sex. Suggesting that others' sexual boundaries are closed-minded, bigoted, or otherwise wrong is not permitted here. Suggesting that others should change, or re-examine with the intent of changing, their sexual boundaries is also considered criticism and is not permitted. 5. No slurs or pejoratives. Slurs and pejorative language include but are not limited to ‘TERF’, 'tranny', etc. The moderating team reserve the right to evaluate language on a case by case basis. Insults, name calling, ad hominem attacks, and other language used specifically to derail discussion or target another user will not be tolerated. Use of 'cis' or 'cisgender' is okay as long as it not being used as a slur, e.g. referring to yourself as 'cis' if fine, but forcing that label on another woman is not. Basically, just don't call any other woman on o/LovingWomen 'cis' or 'cisgender'. 6. No brigading or vote manipulation. 7. No pornography. NSFW posts are okay as long as they are not pornography and they are marked as NSFW. 8. Gender-critical or trans-critical content must be focused on relationships with women, attraction to women, or the like, or it will be removed. 9. No derailing or hijacking. Derailing/Hijacking is posting a comment to another subscriber's thread that changes the topic of discussion from the OP's topic to that of the comment. This often leads to the original discussion shutting down whilst the new discussion continues. This will not be permitted here. 10. No attacks, insults, or reciprocation. Do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult other subscribers. You can disagree with the OP of a topic or a commenter, but you cannot attack them. If you are attacked by another subscriber, please use the report button instead of reciprocating. If you reciprocate, you will be in violation of this rule the same as your attacker. 11. This is not a circle for selfies or memes. This circle would rather prioritize discussions instead of turning into a selfie or meme parade. For your own safety, we will not be allowing selfie posts. We may begin a weekly meme post if there's demand. 12. No spam or self promotion. The content will be removed and the poster will be banned after a second offense.

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I kinda wish we just had /o/Lesbians and /o/BisexualWomen. But cool this exists now, for those who want it.

I would like to second this. I think there should be a lesbian's space, a bisexual women's space and then one for all of us together.

I would like to express demand for memes

And I dont like them - takes all sorts. IMHO gifs and memes are overdone. Its like a spice - just enough is wonderful but too much is overpowering

Is this a different perspective from the Lesbians circle?

Do you mean in terms of something specific in the rules or the circle itself?

Re the circle itself, there are a lot of bisexual and febfem women on ovarit and in radical feminism more generally who feel as though they have a lot in common with lesbians, but don't want to intrude on lesbians' space (myself included). So this circle simply encompasses all same-sex attracted females, rather than just lesbians. It's a wider perspective in that regard.