Are we as an RF, same sex attracted community, sacrificing political lesbianism, due to how many other attacks there are on lesbian only space from 3rd wave liberal feminism and identity politics?

I'd never join a lifelong lesbian space. I'd never join a gold star lesbian space. I'd never join a butch lesbian space. (For that matter I'd never join a femme lesbian space.)

I do join lesbian spaces.

I chose to be lesbian after first becoming RF and following it to its logical end which I believe is feminist separatism; and secondly after a fundamental xtian het marriage I had ended in misogynist abuse and cheating. I've been lesbian for 8 years. I don't have emotional or sexual interest in men, I even don't have friends who are men.

I'm no stranger to being asked to leave lesbian only space, or challenged regarding whether I belong in lesbian only space due to aspects of my life history.

Political lesbianism in terms of purely rejecting sexual relationships with men, alone, I can understand why that does not a lesbian make.

If people want to describe me as a female exclusive bisexual that's their call.

I think second wave feminists were onto a good thing when they advocated for political lesbianism in the sense of lesbianism by choice.

And I feel we're losing that wisdom and liberation.

What happened to Every Woman Can Be A Lesbian - Alix Dobkin? What about the writings of 2nd wave lesbian separatist RF writer Bev Jo Von Dohre and her publication Dykes Loving Dykes?

We don't need to defend lesbianism by saying ALL lesbians were "born this way" and therefore should not be subject to "conversion" therapy (masking / suppression indoctrination).

Why wouldn't choosing relationships with women alone be a superior choice to het / bi in an RF context?

I see too many women fucked over by men and going back to men. If there ARE women (and there are) who have experienced realising the misogyny for the first time, and have never been able to stomach or conscience relationships with men after that; women who've fallen in love with women after that, why wouldn't we acknowledge them as they are? Lesbians by choice. And welcome them into the lesbian community. Even if it's merely a lesbians by choice community.

I do have a discord and a FB page, both titled "Choose Loving Women" (naturally it was impossible for me to resist stylising this as "Ch⚢se L♀ving W♀men", the letter "o", sorrynotsorry I couldn't resist). Please feel free to pm for the discord if political lesbianism is your jam. Admittedly I know basically nothing about discord so it's very much bare bones at this point.

Lesbians who don't have an issue with lesbians by choice most welcome 💜

So what's happening with promoting the knowledge that women can choose to be lesbian? Why are we not preserving this like other aspects of the 2nd wave? What can we do to engender better understanding about lesbianism by choice?