I found it at a used bookstore recently and have been slowly making my way through it. I would love to hear your thoughts if you've read it! So far, I'm intrigued, but philosophy/ethics are not my forte so I've been taking it pretty slow. It's also so far been mostly a broad commentary on patriarchy/'heterosexualism', and less about lesbian community, though I think it's starting to go more in that direction. Here are some sentences found thought-provoking:
From the opening sentence of the introduction: "It is possible for us to engage in moral revolution and change the value we affirm by the choices we make."
"No one ever feels compelled to explain or define what they perceive as the norm. If we define 'lesbianism', we invoke a context in which it is not the norm." (8)
"Language is a tool of oppression, for we remain trapped in oppression when we perceive only what the oppressors perceive, when we are restricted to their values and categories. Language interests me because of its insidiousness as a means of maintaining a political perspective, and because of its susceptibility to change. However, language use has a contradictory dynamic for those under oppression - it is a matter both of agreement and of coercion: in using language we participate in a consensus, often unwittingly; but our participation is also coerced." (14)
"Resistance [...] may even take the form of insanity when someone is isolated within the confines of domination and all means of maintaining integrity have been systematically cut off." (44)
"Dominance is maintained by violence or the threat of violence - which, in the long run, means destruction or the threat of destruction. If nothing else works, men will disrupt or destroy what is going on. Thus, to be different from men, women stress nonviolence. Under heterosexualism, manipulation and control are not challenged; what is challenged is only the threat of disruption or destruction. Women want men to "play fair" in the game of manipulation and control by not resorting to the one-upmanship of destruction." (85)
"If, as a matter of survival, women have developed the feminine virtues into strategies for gaining some control, strategies which promote distance and erect barriers, we face a problem. Since we have not fully perceived and named these strategies as part of our resistance to male domination under the rule of the fathers, they can operate among us automatically, as habitual reactions in various types of situations." (100)