The febfem life is a struggle

biThe febfem life is a struggle

Posted August 17, 2022 by radbadbi in LovingWomen

I submitted a post about my issues connecting with other bi women last year as well, but at the time COVID left my dating life dead, so it was more of a pet peeve than a major concern. Now, triple vaxxed and trying to get back out there... jesus christ, that black sheep feeling has gotten even worse!

The dating apps are straight up depressing - so many are couples, or straight women looking to "explore" (sorry, but I got tired of being straight girl's experimental toy in high school so I have no desire for it in my 20s lol). It ranges from seemingly straight women who got inspired by faux "lesbian" porn or self identified "sapphics" who only want to braid hair, hold hands & exchange pronouns. Y'all, it is rough out there. I do not identify with this culture at all!

I just feel so alienated. After putting my life on hold for two years (I'm high risk with some chronic conditions so my social life nearly disappeared 2020-2021), I was hoping things would fall into place for me but it isn't happenin'. I want an actively sexual relationship with a woman who loves women, and that is seemingly impossible in the current zeitgeist. While I am bi, and have had male offers this year, I experience so little attraction to men that it really isn't worth pursuing. Ultimately I would rather be single than forcing it, but it is becoming a big downer as I enter my late 20s.

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onomatopoeia

June 6, 2024

(Edited June 6, 2024)

loving people AND Trekkies

Did the original post bring up that strange statistic that correlated a high concentration of pedophilia and registered sex offenders with Trekkies?

https://web.archive.org/web/20050428230110/http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/world/la-fg-photo27apr27.story

I was trying to look for where that claim I just mentioned was sourced from and it seems to originate from a now-deleted article by the LA Times from 2005.. If anyone knows what I'm talking about and has more info about it, please let me know. Sorry for the weird tangent.

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Posted August 17, 2022 by radbadbi

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