How you personally feel bout someone liking you for the things you don't like about yourself?

chit-chatHow you personally feel bout someone liking you for the things you don't like about yourself?

Posted August 18, 2022 by Katara in LovingWomen

This is more of a dating-related question. (As in me having encountered this issue in my personal life before, ...and me now considering what I can change about how I pursue relationships to reach a more positive outcome in the future. So basically I'm trying to learn and understand, self-improve and become better at dating and romantic relationships.)

We all have personality traits we dislike in ourselves. Now someone comes along and they like the parts about you that you hate about yourself. Does that make you feel accepted? As in, this person even likes the worst sides of you.

Or would this make you unhappy? Because you want to get rid of those personality traits, and this person keeps reminding you of the worst side of yourself. You feel like they limit your growth? Or they don't have the same vision or worldview was you have. So that makes you incompatible.

Is it even possible to get rid of all our negative traits?

At some point, shouldn't we just learn to live with the ugly sides of ourselves? Isn't that what self acceptance is about? So is it a sign that you don't have healthy self acceptance... if someone liking "your dark side" makes you uncomfortable?

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Researcher1536

March 3, 2022

(Edited March 3, 2022)

I spit my tea out.

Edit to add because it fits well here:

I just saw "(non-binary, any pronouns are fine)" in a professional bio. I stared at the screen like 😐😐😐 for a full minute. She literally has blue hair. There's nothing about her that makes her sex remotely not apparent.

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Julie92845

March 3, 2022

I would be tossing her resume.

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Researcher1536

March 3, 2022

She has a cushy job at a major U.S. academic institution. Sigh.

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[Deleted]

June 22, 2022

aaarrrgggghhhhhh!!!

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notapatsy

June 8, 2022

Of course she does....

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Posted August 18, 2022 by Katara

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