I think my cousin is lesbian or at least bisexual. We live in a Muslim country and she's Muslim

ventI think my cousin is lesbian or at least bisexual. We live in a Muslim country and she's Muslim

Posted August 20, 2022 by friedparata in LovingWomen

I visited her today, and we were talking about dating. She just turned 17 this year, and I'm going to be 20. I'm also bi.

So we were just talking, she said she's never dated anyone. I said good, because most men suck 💀 Then she said "I would really date girls, but that's haram." I was like wait what?? and then carefully agreed lol. She also said if it was allowed, she'd 100% choose women over men.

I used to say stuff like this before I realized I was bi. I remember saying "I really would date anyone, I think if you open your heart to it you can fall in love with anyone.... WAIT NO, not like that, I'm straight." I thought all girls must feel this way. Spoiler alert, they don't.

And I get the feeling, in a few years my cousin is gonna look back and think "Tf, did I really think I was straight???" I've been there. I'm sure most of us here have been there lmao.

But in all seriousness, being gay here is illegal. For her sake, I hope she's straight and just sick of men and boys, but on the other hand, it feels so nice knowing I'm possibly not alone. That someone I know irl, someone who is family, could very possibly also be like me.

I just had to get this off my chest somewhere.

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Researcher1536

March 3, 2022

(Edited March 3, 2022)

I spit my tea out.

Edit to add because it fits well here:

I just saw "(non-binary, any pronouns are fine)" in a professional bio. I stared at the screen like 😐😐😐 for a full minute. She literally has blue hair. There's nothing about her that makes her sex remotely not apparent.

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Julie92845

March 3, 2022

I would be tossing her resume.

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Researcher1536

March 3, 2022

She has a cushy job at a major U.S. academic institution. Sigh.

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[Deleted]

June 22, 2022

aaarrrgggghhhhhh!!!

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notapatsy

June 8, 2022

Of course she does....

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Posted August 20, 2022 by friedparata

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