just need to complain :)

ventjust need to complain :)

Posted September 4, 2022 by raddishfem in LovingWomen

I’m not sure if this is the right place but i just need to get it off my chest tbh.

I’m a young lesbian and since december 2021 i’ve been talking to this girl on instagram. she lives across the world from me but she’s one of the kindest and funniest and most beautiful people i have ever met. she’s very verbally affectionate and calls me “babe” like CONSTANTLY and will tell me how important i am to her and how beautiful i am, and obviously i’ve really liked her this entire time but never said anything bc i don’t really think i’m into long distance relationships.

anyway recently i found out she’s been dating this girl (who’s a tif, which is weird bc my friend is a radfem) since JANUARY and has never mentioned her to me. but now she genuinely won’t shut up about how wonderful she is and how in love they are and will tell me about sexual encounters they have. also the girl she’s dating absolutely hates me even though i’ve never spoken to her and my friend will tell me about things she’s said about me which genuinely make me feel worse than anything.

obviously i want to be a good friend and listen and be exited for her but it just makes me feel sick, so i told her how i felt and we’re still friends and she told me she’d stop talking about the tif if it made me feel bad. but things have just changed between us now and it feels so different. i hate it more than anything because i’m a complete loser and i’ve never had many friends and i feel like i’ve just ruined my friendship with the only person i ever felt truly cared about me.

idk i just genuinely feel so awful and i have no idea what to do, thank you for reading if you did :))))

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Posted September 4, 2022 by raddishfem

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