So I made a couple posts about a week ago about questioning my sexuality, basically wondering if I might be a lesbian because I don't seem to have any physical attraction to men and don't want to have sex with them, which is very unlike my attraction to women. However, I do seem to be okay with the idea of being with a man in a romantic capacity, which a few users pointed out, so I'm probably not a lesbian. So now I'm thinking I'm probably a Kinsey Scale 5.9 or something like that. For this reason, I feel like the term "bisexual" doesn't really fit, especially given the way most bi/het women talk about men. There's also a lot of people on the opposite end of the spectrum, who are mostly opposite sex attracted, but do experience some minor degree of same-sex attraction, and it feels weird to be lumped in with them. Are there any other bisexuals with a very strong preference for women, and very little romantic, but not sexual, attraction to men who feel this same way?
As a side note, I know a lot of people are probably going to say, "why do we need all these labels, they only divide us and make things more complicated" but if I'm being honest, I feel like having a label for my specific experience might be helpful, not just for understanding myself but also for communicating to other people. This is ultimately what labels are for, is it not? I've actually never really understood the disdain some people seem to have for labels. Labels are everywhere, language is entirely comprised of labels, they are absolutely necessary. But then when it comes to certain topics, like sexuality(I've also observed the same thing with mental illness, but from people who don't suffer from any, so it's probably a form of ableism) people seem to get all pissy about it. Why?