I am febfem have dated women exclusively and have only ever dated women when I came out at 20/21. I have mostly use dating apps to met women because it's hard to meet single lesbian or bi woman that is serious about dating women in the wild. Especially since I live in country with a small population. I have been to an lgbt event at university which was filled with they/them queerios. I'm not going back to that especially since I outed myself as an "evil terf"

But it's difficult on dating apps too. When I'm on general apps like tinder, hinge, bumble I make it so that I am only looking for women. Both on general dating apps and lesbian dating apps like zoe and her I put honestly that I'm bisexual. Unfortunately especially since I'm "feminine" looking with long hair. (even though I don't wear makeup or shave.) it seems like people assume that I am het leaning/ or just a straight girl experimenting.

I get women asking me if I am sure I like women. If I am going to leave them for a man etc. Women asking for threesomes or for me to be there side gf while they have a bf. Or women just looking for friends and then telling me what guys they are dating or into and think it is okay because it says im bi on my profile.

I get transgenders that try to match with me and even Literal "cis" MEN trying to match with me even on lesbian dating app. I had one guy catfish me by pretending to be a girl but then revealing himself and asking if we could still date because it says im bi on my profile. It's like everyone assumes bi women prefer men and have no sexual boundaries.

Even when I put things like "looking for my future wife." in my profile it doesn't deter them.

What I found most odd is that it is women who are the most homophobic about me being febfem and only dating women. Most men leave me alone when I tell them I'm only interested in dating women.

Women on the other hand try to pressure me to be "open" to trying guys because "there are lots of nice men out there", "you're so pretty lots of men will want to date you." "the love of your life maybe a man you never know ;)" (the last one was said to me by the first woman I went on a date with. A "lesbian" who ended up talking about the men she found attractive on our date bleh.)

Or when I ask my female friends/acquaintances if they know of any single ladies that are interested in dating me. They will say no but still try and set me up with dudes.

This isn't even touching on the toxic/abusive women I have met/dated too which is a whole different can of worms I might bring up on another topic.

I find this all very frustrating/disheartening. Have you all had similar experiences?