Bisexuals of Ovarit - does anyone else ever feel painfully, agonizingly out of place with other bi women?
My friend group is absolutely brimming with people who identify as bisexual, both male and female. But every person in that friend group is in a het relationship, and has never had a serious or sexual relationship with a same sex partner. Seriously, two of them have never even gone further than kissing a woman - and the woman they kissed was me, LOL.
I cannot relate to or "mesh" with my bi friends when it comes to relationship or sex talk at all (which, since we're all in our 20s and 30s, are pretty common conversation topics in our group). I don't know if it's because of my feminist leanings, or because I prefer women to men, but I just feel so out of place when we talk anything related to relationships or our sexualities.
They frequently talk about how they'd never date a woman because women are "too much drama" or "too difficult", they talk about how sex with a woman is "gross" or "weird", or how "receiving is okay but giving is icky". Conversations about the bi experience revolve, 24/7, around the agony of being mistaken as straight, or how much easier gays and lesbians have it, or "why are lesbians so mean to us?"
It has reached a point where I actively feel like a self hating bisexual lol because I just don't resonate with these women at all and am honestly trying to avoid making any new friendships with bi women. I even feel hesitant about getting in a relationship with a bi woman (all of my relationships with women have been with lesbians except for two).
Am I being biphobic? Am I an asshole for thinking these women are not actually bi? Are they just more "male aligned" because they aren't feminists? I'm asking honestly, because I don't want to be offensive, but I just feel very much "not at home" with my bi friends and it makes me feel guilty.