Trigger warning for WLW physical and emotional abuse Nothing discussed in great detail but specific abusive things are mentioned.

Also kind of a long post and a bit of a vent...

I recently moved to a new city and was happy to connect with another lesbian I met out at a gay bar. We usually hang out a few times a month and there is a little texting in between but not much. We have had some serious conversations but it takes time to build a close friendship. I would say we are headed toward that route though.

There is a decent age gap between us (she is only 24). However, she is super mature and generally has her shit together: good job which she likes, lives alone, has healthy habits, sees a therapist, etc. A few months ago while we were out, she met this 34 year old woman and they've been talking and hooking up. They aren't officially together yet. I've come to discover that this woman is EXTREMELY abusive towards her both physically and mentally. She has damaged her personal property and is trying to move into her apartment as she is about to get kicked out of her own place for unpaid rent. The past 2 times I've spent time with my friend, the woman has showed up screaming abusive things at both of us and will repeatedly ring her door bell if she doesn't answer. While I have tried to give this woman a chance in the beginning, she also does not like me now or anyone in my friend's life.

I do not want to involve myself in this mess too much but I am very concerned for my friend. She doesn't have a lot of supportive people in her life. Her therapist obviously told her to "run" but she hasn't yet and I fear she has stopped bringing it up in therapy. My friend did file a restraining order against her a month ago but never calls the cops when she does this stuff because she doesn't want the woman to be taken away from her kids. My friend seems to go back and forth between acknowledging how mentally unstable this woman is and also falling victim to her manipulations. On our most recent text about an incident that happened this weekend when I was there, she said she had to "side with her partner who felt disrespected" which scares me because it means the abuser is slowly winning her over.

Like I mentioned above, we have only been talking for a few months so I don't feel comfortable getting involved like I would with a close friend. I have attempted to explain how messed up this situation truly is but my friend is not interested in hearing it anymore it seems. Any advice?