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questionHow did you all meet your wife or girlfriend? Was it before or during the gender ideology craze?
Just wondering how you all are doing it lol.
We met at the formation of a Dianic coven in '91 and were friends for years. We became housemates in '14 and fell in love. Sorry sisters; I got the best one.
We took a yearlong class together, started studying together, started going to concerts together, and here we are 5 years later.
She was a TRA-lite (taking gender studies classes etc) and I’m very lucky that she was willing to hear me out.
I sort of fell into the relationship so unfortunately I don’t have any wisdom for you 😅
There's still wisdom here - your story both helps me to realize that I should maybe stop doing a 180 away from women when I sense they seem to align with gender ideology, and also adds to the evidence in this thread that it seems more fruitful to fall in love with a friend as opposed to caring about apps.
I'm not in a place to really start dating yet, but I'd like to get there some day.
I will second Stern's perspective. Don't rule women out completely for it. My girlfriend is pro-trans. She's not a rabid TRA or anything but she is a supporter. I've been slowly seeding the doubts. Mostly they do the work of peaking women themselves so I just provide her with exposure to their activities. I had a really bad experience with a TIM years ago that I have shared with her and that I think is becoming the watershed moment for her.
There's definitely some room for grace/dealing with differences/etc. I'd be careful about not getting too invested before having a gender talk, though. I waited ~4 months and the thought of being left for it was sickening, and I also felt sick for lying by omission for so long, and generally wished I'd broached the subject somewhat sooner.
We actually met on the HER app before it really went to shit. It was on it's way before that but I think we were probably one of the last lesbian couples to meet on there hahah.
During 2021, I was on a group chat on reddit with a bunch of friends i met through FDS, a few of us were in the same city so we did a Dworkin book club and invited our irl friends to join, I met my amazing baby at this book club, she was bi and told our mutual friend she thought i was really funny and cute. So, I asked for her number, I set up the club at my place and texted her the invite. Then she said she'll be there but didn't text me back, so I eventually took initiative and told her she's nice and cute and I want to spend time with her to see if we had similar hobbies and viewpoints and would make a good couple. She agreed.
I've met her online back in 2014. We started talking casually because she liked something I had posted, and just hit it off very well. Then we started DMing each other every day, which quickly turned into video calling every day, and on that same year we decided to spend the holidays together just to see if what we had was an internet crush kind of deal or if we were actually attracted to each other. We very much were, and have been together ever since.
2014 was very much on the rise of the whole gender bullshit, but we were in agreement about this subject from the get go.
We "officially met" at work two years ago but we had been introduced to each other five years ago at an event, so when we met again as coworkers, we were already familiar.
We met in passing at a women's group we're both involved with a couple years ago, then we were both at a Halloween party and we hit it off really well! I wasn't even planning on going to that party, but I'm so glad I did, we talked and laughed the night away :) Now we live together and we're pretty much inseparable 🧡
Go to the party/meet-up/hangout, ladies!!! You might meet someone special, and if not, at least you'll have a good time!
We met through dating apps. I had a few nice matches on there actually, but she was the one with whom conversation was the most natural so we went from there.
Maybe I just got lucky.
Wow! Is she also gender critical?
I don't know... The subject never came up actually, and I don't know if it's because we're both GC and avoiding the subject or if she just doesn't have an opinion. She doesn't seem to be very into LGBT stuff and politics and she doesn't have any LGB or TQ friend either. She's very reserved actually so I don't know very much about her, I'm taking my time with the questions.
So I'd say it's a good sign, but you never know. I'm afraid to start that conversation to be honest so I guess I'll wait and see if she ever mentions it.
it’s wild that we are at a point where people are even afraid to bring it up with partners they care about as though it’s the equivalent to admitting you support lynching or something. I can’t imagine. I’ve started halfway coming out to my friends but I can’t even imagine being fully open about my views
I met her at work. She works in a business hub that the company I work for provides security for. She was getting stalked by an ex at the time and had let us know that the guy had been seen around the lot. So from then on when she had to lock up I would walk her to her car to make sure she got there and left safely. Over the first several months of walking her to her car at night we got to know one another really well and eventually she asked me out. I usually don’t get involved with people I work with or around in any capacity but I REALLY liked her. The sweetest, tiniest, funniest woman.
We have been together close to 6 years now. I still walk her to her car at night when she closes up the shop she works at. Except now when she goes home she goes home to OUR home.
Thankful every single day to have her. Turned my whole world around in many ways.