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questionDo You Have Bi or Lesbian Friends or Acquaintances?
If you have any friends or acquaintances that are SSA, how did you met them? I'm interested in having bi or lesbian acquaintances, but I'm not sure on how to find them. There are a lot of "queer" spaces in my city however these are normally places that I have no interest in.
Belated because I have not felt like dealing with this website lately but yeah pretty much all my friends are lesbians, or bi women who are either in lesbian relationships or seeking one. I'm sick and tired not only of males themselves but of women who center and defend them and who will turn on her entire friend group for some scrote she started sleeping with a few months ago. I go to lesbian events even if they are "inclusive" and look for the other lesbians, I help organize women-only events and the online groups that facilitate and plan them, and I just don't waste my time and energy on men and handmaidens. Two things I think are important are 1. intergenerational lesbian community, don't be afraid to hang out with a dozen retired lesbians, ask them questions about pre-internet lesbian community! and 2. don't ghost the community when you get a girlfriend. it's not healthy to isolate and you lose social supports, plus if you break up and suddenly resurface to us two years later we will be annoyed that we were not actually your friends and just a girlfriend-locating device lol.
Practically all my friends are lesbians.
I met them mostly at college, at the football club and at the video game programming club.
It may depend on where you live or maybe I was lucky to meet them, but what I have noticed is that if you meet one you usually end up finding a small community, you can try to join a sports club.
also, for heaven's sake don't go to a "queer space" I made that mistake in my first year of college, and it was awful, there you will never find lesbians or bis, just creepy men and fetishists.
It seems like my city has many LGBs, but they're dispersed all around. I'm not surprised about the "queer" spaces living up to its odd definition. It's usually in bars and clubs, not something I'm interested in.
Lesbian,
I have many mates who are bi, but the only lesbians I've known were women that I've dated, and kept in touch with.
It's going to sound weird. But usually once women around me find out I'm a lesbian, they usually come flocking to me. So I've never really had to look for it,
Perhaps I'm just fortunate?
Some niches that might be good; are volunteering (animal shelters!), habitat for humanity. I find a lot of us gays enjoy participating in the community!
It's going to sound weird. But usually once women around me find out I'm a lesbian, they usually come flocking to me.
That makes sense actually. I guess I'm going to have to learn to be more open about it.
I've heard that volunteering is a good way to meet people. I wonder what it is that motivates gay people to volunteer.
Volunteering is a great way to meet people, especially if you're shy. It automatically gives you something to talk about, and working towards a common goal can be a bonding experience. I've also met people through interest groups like community choir/theater and hiking/birdwatching. I tried volunteering at an animal shelter as well, but I wanted to adopt all the pets, so it was rather dangerous.
As someone who love animals, volunteering at an animal shelter does sound rather dangerous. XD
Most of my friends these days are lesbians. Met many of them at feminist events. 😊
I have one friend who is a butch lesbian. I met her while my mom was renting a bedroom in her grandmothers house. I too, would like to meet more bi and lesbian people, but I don't feel comfortable going to the local pride center because they are trans inclusive. They could easily find out I'm a terf, because of my online footprint. I have a couple lesbian acquaintances on facebook, and have registered to do a zoom meeting with lgballiance.