How nervous do/did you feel around serious crushes?

questionHow nervous do/did you feel around serious crushes?

Posted February 1, 2025 by velvetpaws in LovingWomen

39%Very
39%Very
46%A little
46%A little
11%Not at all
11%Not at all
4%Very nervous with men, but only a little with women
4%Very nervous with men, but only a little with women
0%Very nervous with women, but only a little with men
0%Very nervous with women, but only a little with men

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February 3, 2025

With my partner, I was very anxious at the thought of being around her, but it completely evaporated when we were actually together.

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velvetpaws [OP]

February 3, 2025

Interesting, me too. Was this more of a cyclical or epoch-defining phenomenon for you?

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stern-as-steel

February 4, 2025

It passed fairly quickly -maybe around a month? How about you?

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velvetpaws [OP]

February 4, 2025

I keep reliving it.

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goldenheartcc

February 6, 2025

I had a crush on this girl back in middle school. it dissipated but at after prom she had mentioned being curious about girls but too self conscious/nervous to do any public making out at the party (and she may not have even been talking about me at that point, tho I now know she knew I had a crush on her) and since I was already over it I was like that's chill queen I respect that I'll see u on the dance floor!

anyway our school does an alumni social around thanksgiving and she was there and we've rekindled the friendship (cuz we WERE friends in middle school too) and it's been great and at the party I had made a joke about how in love w her I'd been and at her bday party I was joking too since other friends from middle/high school were there and we were all having a laugh

but like now im thinking abt it and im like oh no pause is the crush BACK?!?!?! it's fine bc we're 26 now and grown and im gonna be away all summer and im just happy to be spending time deepening my platonic relationships but like goddamn stupid crush :(

at least we're both man haters together. if only I could peak her but too damn scared to say anything since our school was so TRA and I was too back in the day

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velvetpaws [OP]

February 6, 2025

Go for it! I'm getting good signals from this one.

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goldenheartcc

February 6, 2025

sadly we were at the museum talking abt 47 and his insane followers and how now it's like anyone can just say anything and she told me abt how she was at student health in college and the doctor mentioned (somehow) not liking trans people and the way she said it was "that's literally insane how can you just say that to me of all people" and I think she reported the incident. but I may slowly drip thought crimes out.

at the very least hope she won't reject me, even if she doesn't agree.

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Posted February 1, 2025 by velvetpaws

Score: 10

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