Should a bisexual woman disclose her status when dating?

questionShould a bisexual woman disclose her status when dating?

Posted March 25, 2025 by proudcatladybi in LovingWomen

16%Yes, always
16%Yes, always
31%Yes if she’s pursuing a woman, no if she’s pursuing a man
31%Yes if she’s pursuing a woman, no if she’s pursuing a man
0%Yes if she’s pursuing a man, no if she’s pursuing a woman
0%Yes if she’s pursuing a man, no if she’s pursuing a woman
5%No, never
5%No, never
48%Only if she wants to for whatever reason
48%Only if she wants to for whatever reason

64 votes

Inspired by that other thread. I’ve generally avoided these topics and this circle in the last few years but the site is closing so let’s just have a lively discussion about this.

Please note that “no” doesn’t entail lying outright and saying you are straight or gay. It just means you didn’t announce it on the app, or didn’t announce it early in the relationship.

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Posted March 25, 2025 by proudcatladybi

Score: 9

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