Let's talk about real-life WLW spaces

chit-chatLet's talk about real-life WLW spaces

Posted May 3, 2022 by platypus in LovingWomen

If you could start your own WLW or lesbian-exclusive space IRL, what would it be like??? What kind of groundrules would you have?
If you've participated in lesbian and WLW spaces before the TIMs invaded, how was it? What did you love about it? What would you change?

Personally I would love to have a WLW knitting+crochet group. It would be a monthly meeting, ideally at a local library or woman-owned yarn shop.
My rules would be:

Female-born, lesbian and bisexual women only (detrans and intersex women fully welcome!)
No 'boy talk'
No bigotry (racism, lesbophobia, biphobia etc.)
~~ABSOLUTELY NO CROSS STITCH~~ (jk)

To keep the TIMs out, we could register as a private organization which requires membership. I think we could even make the membership free, and simply screen new members over the phone or whatever. We could maybe even get away with simply allowing all interested people to show up, and turning away TIMs and men at the door.
Or we could register as a religious organization.

But feel free to daydream, if you don't want to worry about keeping away TIMs. Let your imagination fly. Would you want a WLW softball meetup? A lesbian acapella chorus group? We used to have all these and more, depending on the size of your city. Have you ever participated in something like that in the past?

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Posted May 3, 2022 by platypus

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