Several times in the last week I have seen explicitly biphobic and misogynistic memes and comments posted about bisexual women. Some of the things said include:

• that the only REAL bi women (eg not "spicy straights") are those who are not currently with men or who identify as febfem.

• the term 'bihet', which apparently means a straight woman who claims to be bisexual for attention but isn't. Then just say "straight woman"! Blaming bisexual women for the actions of attention-seeking straight women hurts bisexual women.

• that bi women who ARE with men are lying about/exaggerating their same-sex attraction to bother lesbians, and that if a bi woman is in a relationship with a man, she is as good as straight and has no need of spaces where she can talk about her same-sex attraction. (Sounds a lot like "pick a side!")

• that bi women have a higher libido than lesbians or straight women and therefore are at a higher risk of cheating, therefore lesbians should be hesitant to date them. Do I even need to explain how messed up this one is?

Look. I understand that many lesbians have had bad experiences with bisexual women and that when venting about those experiences, sometimes the things they say aren't going to be totally kind to bi women as a whole. But if lesbians deserve a space to rant uncensored, then bi women do too. We're constantly being told to "make our own spaces!" and not to "wait around and let the lesbians do all the work for you!" but we can't even get a circle here for bisexual women only?

EDIT: Several bi women have responded to this post agreeing that there is a need for a circle for bi women only. I do not have enough post history (I mostly read while signed out) to mod, but maybe someone else here does. Here's what girl_undone says:

Other things we look for: Do they understand the site (have they looked for the appropriate information where it is expected to be, do they follow the sitewide rules and guidelines without being told); Do they have good online communication skills (don't reduce nuance or overgeneralize things other people say, don't treat a group of individuals like a borg, make decisions that shift conversations to be more productive instead of less, send modmails to the appropriate parties with concerns or special requests); Do they act like good community leaders (bringing people together instead driving them apart, not acting like a troll or having the effect of a troll regardless of "intent", etc)

If you think you're qualified and you would be willing to mod a bi circle, please contact one of the mods.

EDIT 2 Post has been locked now, but in response to the sticky, I hope that mods will not totally dismiss the request for a circle for bi women ONLY. I don't want o/LovingWomen to be converted to that space as I still have hope lesbians and bi women can come to understand each other and a shared space is necessary for that, but the response this post got shows there is a clear need for that third space.