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This is a radical feminist circle dedicated to recording and exploring the global phenomenon of male violence.
Please be aware of readers' sensitivities when you post to this circle.
Flair your post according to the type of violence it features. This is so that readers can avoid particular kinds of material.
While we acknowledge that violence perpetrated by trans-identified males is male violence, these incidents are more appropriate for o/thisneverhappens.
FACTS
RULES
Please make sure you've read the the Sitewide Rules and Sitewide Guidelines as well as the circle-specific rules below.
General Guidelines: Posts should document male violence. Use descriptive titles when submitting links and text posts. Avoid vague titles, clickbait titles, and editorializing. If you're linking to a news article or blog, make the title of your submission the title of the article or blog posts, or at least begin with it. Clear titles help people avoid posting duplicate topics.
NAMALT/Whataboutery: This circle does not accept arguments that predicated on the idea that 'not all men' commit crimes or that women commit crimes too. We know that not all men commit crimes and that some women do. We also know all the available proof indicates that men commit the majority of violent crime in every country of the world and in every historical period.
No Trolling: Users who troll, concern troll, or sealion the circle and/or its users will not receive a warning and be promptly banned. Anyone who attempts to circumvent an account ban with multiple accounts will be reported to the admins.
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This circle was originally inspired by the now defunct tumblr blog nametheproblem.com
RECOMMENDED READING
If you are experiencing/at risk of male violence you may find these books useful:
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker
Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark
GET HELP
Look here to find support for victims of male violence in your region.
QUOTES
Domestic violence against women by men is “caused” by the misuse of power and control within a context of male privilege. Male privilege operates on an individual and societal level to maintain a situation of male dominance, where men have power over women and children. Domestic violence by men against women can be seen as a consequence of the inequalities between men and women, rooted in patriarchal traditions that encourage men to believe they are entitled to power and control over their partners.
Perpetration of serious violence and crime is in fact the most distinctive sex difference there is, cross-culturally.
The male-female difference in perpetrators of violent crime is about 10 to 1, consistent across every state in the United States, and true of every country for which such data are available…The overwhelming maleness of violence is so pervasive in every human society that it is typically not even recognized as such; it is the ocean in which we swim.
I have a few minor problems with this but here's where I really take issue.
Rape is functionally decriminalized. Saying that it being illegal doesn't change anything isn't telling the whole story. I don't know a single acquaintance or friend who has been raped who even bothered contacting law enforcement. Often there's a bunch of reasons for that, but "what's the point?" is a HUGE one. I remember the Stanford rape trial, I remember the girl who was raped by a dorm neighbor at Harvard, high profile cases with sympathetic victims where literally nothing happened to the rapists. (I mean I guess the Stanford rapist got a tiny slap on the wrist but it was a fucking joke.)
A victim who goes to law enforcement is usually treated like garbage and for what? Cops to not even bother bringing the rapist in? Oh, maybe it actually goes to trial... just for the rapist to get praised for his sport abilities in open court?
Rapists don't think twice before raping because they know that even though it's illegal there are no actual consequences. There need to be more Larry Nassars, more rapists who are actually punished. And the punishments need to be swift and severe.
If someone steals my car, that really would suck for me, it might be a horrible inconvenience and screw things up a lot, but I wouldn't have nightmares for the rest of my life about it. Why is the punishment for stealing a car harsher than rape? Why should teenage girls have to bear some weird conservative burden on having safe, healthy, age appropriate sexual interactions (and not pornsick ones - I agree that is something that also needs to change) because we refuse to lock up and actually punish men that feel like they have a right to rape?