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This is a radical feminist circle dedicated to recording and exploring the global phenomenon of male violence.
Please be aware of readers' sensitivities when you post to this circle.
Flair your post according to the type of violence it features. This is so that readers can avoid particular kinds of material.
While we acknowledge that violence perpetrated by trans-identified males is male violence, these incidents are more appropriate for o/thisneverhappens.
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This circle was originally inspired by the now defunct tumblr blog nametheproblem.com
RECOMMENDED READING
If you are experiencing/at risk of male violence you may find these books useful:
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker
Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark
GET HELP
Look here to find support for victims of male violence in your region.
QUOTES
Domestic violence against women by men is “caused” by the misuse of power and control within a context of male privilege. Male privilege operates on an individual and societal level to maintain a situation of male dominance, where men have power over women and children. Domestic violence by men against women can be seen as a consequence of the inequalities between men and women, rooted in patriarchal traditions that encourage men to believe they are entitled to power and control over their partners.
Perpetration of serious violence and crime is in fact the most distinctive sex difference there is, cross-culturally.
The male-female difference in perpetrators of violent crime is about 10 to 1, consistent across every state in the United States, and true of every country for which such data are available…The overwhelming maleness of violence is so pervasive in every human society that it is typically not even recognized as such; it is the ocean in which we swim.
Apparently these murders happened during a supervised visit and the "other" was the supervisor.
The saddest thing to me is the normality of what happened. It's an extreme version of what plays out over and over again. Lundy Bancroft describes this well on his page about child custody justice:
If the child's mother put a restraining order on this male, this means he had violent tendencies. What makes the court think that an unarmed supervisor would be equipped for such a situation and doesn't need security or a police officer to accompany them?
RIP to the girls and the supervisor. The male can roast in hell. Should have just killed himself first
As long as he's only beaten up their mother, but not the children, judges think it is more important to "foster a relationship" with a battered than to ensure the children are safe. Sometimes grandparents have to fight to keep they daughters' murderers from having visitation with the children.
Yeah, it's absurd, and I don't know how those responsible sleep at night, or look in the mirror in the mornings
(Not sure if it is a legislation problem, or if judges just make wrong decisions? I suspect, both?)