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Posted March 7, 2022 by cranberrysalad
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This is a radical feminist circle dedicated to recording and exploring the global phenomenon of male violence.
Please be aware of readers' sensitivities when you post to this circle.
Flair your post according to the type of violence it features. This is so that readers can avoid particular kinds of material.
While we acknowledge that violence perpetrated by trans-identified males is male violence, these incidents are more appropriate for o/thisneverhappens.
FACTS
- It is estimated that there are 650 million women and girls in the world today who were married before age 18.
- At least 200 million women and girls aged 15-49 have undergone female genital mutilation.
- Approximately 15 million adolescent girls (aged 15 to 19) worldwide have experienced forced sex (forced sexual intercourse or other sexual acts) at some point in their life.
- Twenty-three per cent of female undergraduate university students reported having experienced sexual assault or sexual misconduct in a survey across 27 universities in the United States in 2015.
- 1 in 10 women in the United States will be raped by an intimate partner in her lifetime.
RULES
Please make sure you've read the the Sitewide Rules and Sitewide Guidelines as well as the circle-specific rules below.
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General Guidelines: Posts should document male violence. Use descriptive titles when submitting links and text posts. Avoid vague titles, clickbait titles, and editorializing. If you're linking to a news article or blog, make the title of your submission the title of the article or blog posts, or at least begin with it. Clear titles help people avoid posting duplicate topics.
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NAMALT/Whataboutery: This circle does not accept arguments that predicated on the idea that 'not all men' commit crimes or that women commit crimes too. We know that not all men commit crimes and that some women do. We also know all the available proof indicates that men commit the majority of violent crime in every country of the world and in every historical period.
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No Trolling: Users who troll, concern troll, or sealion the circle and/or its users will not receive a warning and be promptly banned. Anyone who attempts to circumvent an account ban with multiple accounts will be reported to the admins.
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Civility: Maintain civility while participating here. Do not insult others for disagreeing with you. Do not escalate disagreements into fights. Do not target or harass individual users that you don't like. Do not feed trolls. Report them to the moderators. Low-effort posts that only insult or disparage people or groups of people will be removed. Violations will result in warnings and bans at the discretion of the moderators.
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No Hate Speech: Posts will be removed if they are espousing misogyny, racism, anti-semitism, anti-Muslimism, homophobia, ageism, ableism, denigrating the mentally ill, or truly hateful or dehumanizing descriptions of people. Posts will be removed for using slurs.
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No Doxing: Do not post links, archives, or screen caps that have identifying personal information from Facebook, Twitter, or anywhere else. The post will be deleted immediately and the site admins may suspend your account permanently.
This circle was originally inspired by the now defunct tumblr blog nametheproblem.com
RECOMMENDED READING
If you are experiencing/at risk of male violence you may find these books useful:
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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
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The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker
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Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark
GET HELP
Look here to find support for victims of male violence in your region.
QUOTES
Domestic violence against women by men is “caused” by the misuse of power and control within a context of male privilege. Male privilege operates on an individual and societal level to maintain a situation of male dominance, where men have power over women and children. Domestic violence by men against women can be seen as a consequence of the inequalities between men and women, rooted in patriarchal traditions that encourage men to believe they are entitled to power and control over their partners.
Perpetration of serious violence and crime is in fact the most distinctive sex difference there is, cross-culturally.
The male-female difference in perpetrators of violent crime is about 10 to 1, consistent across every state in the United States, and true of every country for which such data are available…The overwhelming maleness of violence is so pervasive in every human society that it is typically not even recognized as such; it is the ocean in which we swim.
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First, I am coming to read this brilliant book a couple of years after it was published, so some of you may have already read it. But wanted to highly recommend it. Shriver is one of my favorite contemporary writers (I mostly only read women authors), and this book is a deep, funny, imaginative exploration of the difficult subjects of aging, mortality, the body's deterioration, choices to stay or go, and much more, written in Shriver's inimitable way, with great humor, energy, intelligence and a wonderful ability to point up cultural ridiculousnesses and fads with sharp wit and insight. She is, of course, gender critical in her journalism (the novel is not about "g.i" issues, but gets a bit in). She is also brave and courageous and embodies freedom of speech and belief in her forthrightness to speak on any subject, particularly taboo ones.
I posted this link because it is an excellent interview/discussion on the novel, and on writing, with Zoe Strimpel. I really like to hear from authors whose books I admire.
I recently listened to the Mandibles, from 2016, on a long road trip. She predicted toilet paper shortages! That book terrified me because we're headed in that direction and it really made me think about my own situation in the context of all that's happening across the globe, which isn't great as a single woman who doesn't have a stash of gold bars or a gun. I'm not quite up for this one yet, but I'll get there. She's my new favourite horror novelist and I love that she sees right through the gender nonsense, which of course she does.
Yes, the Mandibles is really really good - and grim! Ohmigosh. She writes about her worst fears, and the thing of it is, it's all things that could actually happen. And in some cases already have, to somebody.
It made me think I should learn how to use a gun, and get one, even though I'm in Canada. As a single woman, I can't protect myself if I can't stop men. Grim stuff!
That part with the "house-jacking" - that's like, yeah, that's actually how that could go.
There's a similar scene in "Should we stay or should we go", and the old couple wind up relegated to their attic while others have taken over their own house.
I strongly think Shriver is an under rated author. She is really really REALLY good. The way she writes it is so visceral.
Yeah, and seeing how the police don't give a shit about women, the house-jacking scene really made me think, and as a single woman, it could go way worse than what happened in the book, plus, any food I have would be taken. I agree that Shriver is underrated. The first book of hers I read was "We Need to Talk About Kevin" and it was mind-stretching and important.
She writes about things that are outside of your control, that are still going to affect your life. And yet, she still writes from a perspective that personal responsibility exists. I really wish we heard more, from this sort of perspective. Like, if the entire American Dollar collapses, there is no amount of self-help that's going to really help you, and yet, there ARE some choices you get to make.
Yeah, good analysis. I just want to prepare to keep myself somewhat safe and go from there. It's like driving, though, I'm a good driver, but I have no control over the assholes on the road.
Yes, The Mandibles is my other favorite of hers. And like a great writer, she understands humanity and can see possibilities of where we are going on many different levels. As she says in this interview, one of the things that interests her is our financial situation.
Our financial system is grim. I'm in Canada, and waiting for the ball to drop, because we've turned on the printing money taps and left them running for years and it's going to hurt when we shut them off and try to clean up the mess.