I have successfully broken through to about a dozen women. Two of them are my own kids who are adults and deeply entrenched in social groups riddled with them/thems and TIPs.

I go about changing minds by dispassionately making a brief comment on a current event. When I wake up in the morning I peruse ovarit and Reduxx and select stories I can summarize quickly. I don’t give my sources, but I will say “Google x and read about it”.

I will point out that biological males can never understand why women need private spaces and that it’s unfair to expect women to shoulder this burden. I point out rapes in prisons. And I point out story after story of omg another TIM disguising a deviant sexual fetish with trans bs. I don’t say it in an inflammatory way and I use their pronouns so I don’t tip them off that I’m a raging TERF. “It’s really weird how so many men in prison who transition are sex offenders. Doesn’t that seem weird?” I just want to come off as sensible and even tempered lol.

It works. It’s a tiny drip drip drip in the background. This is exactly how social media brainwashed everyone. Slowly and constantly.

When I’m in public and hear anything trans related I also add small comments so others know I’m not a TRA. Like I’ll say just simply, “that’s fucked up” or “women shouldn’t have to deal with this” or “don’t you think it’s weird that we’re all being asked to play along with someone’s mental illness?” I do get a little spicy if it’s people I’ll never see again. I call it planting seeds of doubt.

Once other women read the room and see more and more of us not going along with it, it causes them to begin to question things more.

Before you go ahead, did anything happen to her, so she just doesn't have headspace for this kind of thing any more? Triggering her isn't going to convert her.

It sounds like you are in a hurry to change her mind but it might not be possible to change her thinking overnight.

Before I peaked someone tried to peak me with the story about Chris Chan and his mother. It didn't work because she was really angry and jumped right in and I had no idea what she was talking about because I hadn't heard anything about it before so I was super confused.

Seeing peaking someone as a high stakes thing that you have to do ASAP might be less effective than calmly and casually bringing up specific well chosen examples. It also might be something that maybe takes time. Try and think of it being a two way conversation, it will be hard if you talk at her and try to bring her round to your way of thinking. If she doesn't agree with you try not to get angry or upset keep it as a respectful adult interaction.

There also isn't one thing that will peak everyone. For some people it's the violent transvestites, or sports, or transing children and what is crossing a line to you might not be a step too far in someone else's mind. I wouldn't bring up AGPs as it's really unpleasant to talk about fetishes and its a pretty divisive angle.

Is there a subtle way you can find out how much she has heard and what she thinks? She might not have paid much attention but maybe she has also heard things that have disturbed her or brought up questions.

Don't information bomb, there is so many different things you could talk about but try and make it simple and stick to one topic. In my opinion focusing on transing children makes sense because even if someone doesn't care much about women's sports or women's specaces, every reasonable person cares about child protection, especially mothers.

The lack of strong scientific evidence, the damage caused by unlicensed off label use of substances like puberty blockers (medication that is otherwise used to treat cancer patients and castrate sex offenders) and cross sex hormones. The fact that the initial aims of the Dutch protocol when transing children was to make them pass better as adults to make them happier (which it didn't). The very high likelyhood that GNC children will grow out of it if watchful waiting is employed (and many of these kids will grow up to be gay) and the suicide rate is incorrect. And the fact that many countries outside the US such as Europe are reversing their practices on children.

If it's easier to watch something than read something maybe I Am Jazz as its a reality TV show rather than a political think piece. I don't know if you ushally watch reality TV together or if this choice would seem out of character though? Maybe you could send her a clip like 'I have been watching this TV show recently and its really something else'. Perhaps the mad goodbye to penis party clip or the the clips about Jazz's surgery and medical problems?

If you haven't watch it before this show is basically just a child abuse documentary and a good example of how transition leads to a happy life is such a lie.

A photo of Will Thomas on the podium next to women swimmers?

Or a photo of the guy with his crotch showing under the skin-tight dress after he won the city council seat reserved for a woman by local law in Brooklyn?

Men in women’s sports.

Most people peak because they have something happen in their life. Other than that, the most obvious to anyone except TRAs is “men in women’s sports”.

I see value in talking about events from the vantage point of the “average person”—that being the hypothetical person who is just catching on to what is happening and is seeing it all through a pre-2010 lens.

So let’s say trans in sports comes up in conversation. If your mother expresses a view that indicates she’s torn, come back with, “well, people are complaining because they see athletic authorities letting boys and men opt into female sports based only on their feelings, which goes against the whole point of having single-sex sports in the first place. I agree with them that this isn’t fair.”

If restrooms and locker rooms come up, same thing. “People are concerned about just letting anyone at anytime use the restroom of their choosing. That goes against the whole point of having toilets reserved just for women’s’ needs. And why should we make it easier for perverted men to perv on women when they are relieving themselves and undressed? People are just not buying the idea that this is right.”

If the subject is trans medicine in kids. “People are starting to realize that medically transitioning children is basically spaying and neutering them like animals just so they better mimic the opposite sex. The average person is never going to be on board with that, and that’s where the backlash is coming from.”

If your mom denies that people are informed enough to draw the conclusions they have, then that’s where you need to be ready with cites.

I think this approach could influence anyone who has been fence straddling the issue for a while, playing the “both sides” game to rationalize their reluctance to stake a real position, but is secretly doubtful this waffling is justifiable. Helping them hear how ridiculous trans demands are when reframed by the “average person” could be a jolt of much needed common sense.

I have found great success in discussing this issue with my own mother by framing it through 3 lenses:

1. Transgender activism as misogyny
2. Mind-body dualism as religious doctrine, not science
3. Material harm being done to children

I try not to blast her with information or articles. Like another commenter said, a slow drip-feed of comments on topics already being discussed is far more effective and less confrontational than the most well-researched, well-intentioned pulpit sermons. I have seen her begin to understand the reality more and more over time.

If your mother is the kind to prefer strong factual evidence, I would suggest having an arsenal of factual evidence on hand for if any of your more casual statements pique her interest.

The fact that most "transwomen" these days are ugly straight men with a fetish can get women paying attention. Most people still think TIMs are hyperfeminine gay men.

Even as a peaked GC woman, I still don't really care about most HSTS TIMs since they're generally not the ones who are a danger to women. All AGPs are psycho to women, especially lesbians.

Like others say, it may just take time. It did for my mum, and I'm terminally impatient so you can imagine how much I tried to convince her.

Ive Had tremendous success peaking people with information on the following:

• gender fluids: lots of people will "be kind", so if they feel a man is genuinely distresses and actually trying, he should be allowed in the women's spaces. But often people don't know about gender fluids, men who want to be women today, then men, then women, then both. Lots of people find that flippant and disrespectful. Ive peaked two people with this knowledge

• autogynephilia: this is what peaked me so I keep trying it but not as successfully, sadly. Most people seem to plain not believe it.

• penises: this is how I peaked most people. Did you know that male transgenders are 85% straight, and 95% bepenised? A "be kind" will be open to penisfree men in their spaces, but a hetero penis man? Only the most delulu wokes are in favor of this

• children: they're chemically and physically castrating children and cutting healthy breasts off of 13 year old girls. Ive Been very successful with this one

• female sports: mostly peaks men ironically, extra bonus for males with daughters

Good luck!!!

I'd suggest to send her something from a mainstream source she already knows and trusts that's short and highlights something simple such as — the Dutch protocol wasn't built on solid science; there was no control group.

Much of this stuff is so crazy that people simply don't believe it. If it comes from rad fem sources, they think it is propaganda and not true. Find whatever she already cares about, whether that is children, sports, or violent threats made at rallies where TRAs stage counter protests.

Show her the Lea Thomas picture of him standing next to the real winners. Visually striking and an easy in. The AGP stuff can sound conspiratorial, so you have to lead with something mainstream—and that’s sports. Keep bringing up sports stories so she can see it’s a consistent problem. Then lean in with other issues (but definitely save AGP for last—let her see that there’s a sexual element on her own before ever bringing AGP up).

Does she like Katha Pollit from The Nation? I think Pollit is peaked.