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[Deleted]February 3, 2021
If there is no way to keep such a space private and secure, including by potentially screening members, how ever that would work, I don't think this is a good idea to have on a public site that is lurked on by hateful abusers and rapists. Not only would it be absolutely awful to have painful experiences appropriated and spread potentially for ridicule, but if any users shared very specific details in an attempt to find solidarity with other survivors, such information could be used to doxx already very vulnerable women.
wildpansyFebruary 3, 2021
Yes, let's not forget there are tims who go to women's groups to listen to their experiences just so they can mimic it better in their LARPing. It's not a good idea to have these things out in the open, maybe just have a general relationships type sub where people can post about red flags etc but stories about actual trauma ought to be kept to a private space.
KissMyOvariesFebruary 3, 2021
I’m guessing you’ve never been on a trauma forum? Yes the sickos read and get off to what we say, but there are so many forums of this type all over the internet. No, they aren’t completely private. I’d argue that it would be impossible to keep men out of any survivor space.
I’d even go so far as to say that it’s not difficult to avoid being doxxed. Sexual abuse is so common that details overlap from survivor to survivor. Even if you think your case is unusual, chances are that someone else has experienced the same. I say this as someone who actually met another survivor who’s abuse and circumstances surrounding the abuse were the same, in such a way that sometimes I doubt their existence as how could so many things in our lives be the same.
I guess I just find your arguments very dated as if successful and public survivor spaces haven’t existed for 20+ years now, without people getting doxxed.
[Deleted]February 3, 2021
My point is that the social climate on this site is much different from a lesser known forum meant specifically for survivors. I'm not just worried about sickos and fetishists getting off to it. I don't want the potential of my own experiences being spread in hateful communities on twitter or reddit to mock a traumatized "TERF". Even without doxxing, that would be re-traumatizing and I can't say I would be able to hold in my emotions enough not to respond thereby making myself more vulnerable to them.
If your point is people like me, who are anxious about exposure and have very unique stories, don't have to participate in such a circle, I am aware. I want to make sure to warn some women here though as the culture of interacting with mainly women can lead us to forget everything we post is public and perused by TRA lurkers looking to take us down. Awareness of the risks is important to protecting our identities.
To be honest, I don't see the admins creating many new circles anyway. I am not the voice that would be preventing this from becoming a reality. But if it is made and it does work out, that would be great.
[Deleted]February 3, 2021
i just sprinkle my accounts here and there all over this entire forum. i figure the more i talk about my experiences the more other women will talk about theirs.
Would love this, it also needs to be a woman-only sub that excludes all males (since there are... 🤢... some males on this site still).
yeah i almost forgot they literally get off on that shit
Any man who gets off on a woman’s trauma (or violence against women in general) needs to have his dick cut off. :)
agreed
seconded :)