I love Ovarit! I’ve had warm, supportive, and thought provoking interactions on this platform. My real life social & work environments are quite hostile to my brand of feminism so I appreciate you all.

After a few rough nights I had to say goodbye to my old pup this weekend. He declined so quickly and it was really hard to watch 😔 He was old and had health problems but it still hit me pretty hard. The house feels empty without him snoozing in one of his many napping spots.

I'm putting Duluth Trading Company out there as a recommendation for women who struggle with finding well-made and modest clothes to wear. DTC's clothes are intended for blue collar work and physical labor, which means nothing is too tight, low cut, or revealing. The shirt lengths are very generous. The clothes are durable. What I really appreciate is that you can clearly tell that DTC listened to what their female customers want and need from their clothes, and then incorporated that feedback into their designs. Other competitors usually half-ass their women's clothing lines compared to the men's, but it doesn't feel like that here.

I am doing a dance competition with my husband in December and it's getting close...eeep!

It's our first one and due to the competition schedule / our work schedules we had to pick International Latin. Which is definitely a harder dance category than American Rhythm. And it's our first comp, we have been dancing for about 1.5 years now.

We have been working on Paso Doble recently, which is inspired by bullfighting. The man is the matador and the woman can be the bull, another seniorita, another matador...etc. I decided I want to channel the bull!

The competition is going to be hard, but I am glad we decided to push ourselves.

Sometimes I wish I was still on birth control. I now understand what it truly means when people talk about a woman's "biological clock." They make it sound as if women get obsessed with babies rather than it just being an increase of sexual desire. My body not caring that any sex I'd actually have won't lead to pregnancy makes it extra absurd.

The slightly cooler weather is motivating me to actually finish some knitting projects. So far, it has taken me 2 years to finish the back of this sweater. Hopefully, I'll finish the rest of it this month... or year.

My cat is very patient with me, and I love her for it. Any other cat would have my body full of scratches. LOL

Just wanted to post that I feel ovarit has grown increasingly conservative (particularly xenophobic of late) and, with it, more antagonistic. I see why a lot of the old logins I saw and interacted with are gone and several deleted.

I think my beta test with social media is over. I am glad it was with ovarit (as I have never done any other SM--either kind, lol). Many here have helped me through the loss of my three purr-babies, which still hurts every day. I am grateful for the support and kindness during a difficult time in my life.

My dumb little rant is that I keep thinking about the time I decided to stop Irish dancing, or at least performing, and gave away my dress to a local dancer but posted the wig to our local buy nothing FB page. When the couple showed up to pick it up it was a TIM in a typical Little House on the Prairie frock who grabbed it from me and tore into the carrying case to get at it. I hate that I could have given it away to another young dancer who didn't have the $120 to spend on one and instead helped out that pervert.

Oh, to be a clueless man in this world...

Long story before, Nigel and I were sitting on the couch, watching youtube reactions about a deranged influencer who is the incarnation of both libfeminism and internalized misogyny. But she did also speak about the danger that men are to women and this is where I agreed with her. Nigel was shocked, but I looked him straight in the eye and told him "a woman is most likely to be killed by a (ex-)partner. A woman is most likely to be raped by a (ex-)partner. The no.1 death reason for pregnant women is being murdered by a (ex-)partner."

I saw his face become pale and he just whispered "this world really sucks"

I've been scheduled for my second surgery of the year next month. It's on my dominant hand, so there'll be no Minecraft for me for a month or so, or anything else requiring manual dexterity. It'll be so nice to have a properly functioning hand once again once I graduate from PT.

I think I’ve lost a friend to the cult of trans. He came out as having treatment for gender dysphoria and I had to out myself as a terf. He has barely contacted me since. It’s a shame but at least I know now how he really views women.

I feel like my job just keeps getting more stressful and giving me more responsibilities without any extra compensation. Part of me wants to search for another job, but at the same time my direct supervisor is fantastic and I doubt I'll ever find someone as caring and overall flexible as her. Not to mention I have the rare luck to have a pension plan at my age, and still need to stay for years for it to be vested. I'm just incredibly stressed out and dreading going to work daily from how frustrating my daily tasks can get.

Oh yeah, and a gender debacle just hit that may make my department go into overdrive to try to handle. I'm extremely glad that all of the admin seem to be on a more GC side of things which is a welcome relief, but it means I'm helping deal with the TRA onslaught of harassment both online and in person.

I have a question - I’ve been watching a lot of entertaining videos about dating for women; and there’s a lot of discussion about “energy”

My question is: how does “energy” figure into your social relations? Do you believe in feminine “energy”? Masculine “energy?”

One of the YouTubers proposed that women have something that men do not have: a growing, healing energy. The idea is that XYs are energy “vampires” which is why men wither without a partner while a woman thrives.

Anyway : we have so many perspectives here: how does “energy” (“feminine or otherwise) figure in your life?