grifters gonna grift

[–] WitchPlease 48 points

I lived below poverty line for a while after I left my suffocating home with no skills to make it on my own, and I was too embarrassed to see if someone had a spare suitcase to give me for free. I see these people shamelessly asking for money and I just... I don't feel bad for people who fall for this crap and give them money, because come on...

[–] Medusa91 27 points

It could have been a fever dream but I’m sure I saw one guy on the farms (I’m sure he was a black transgender qween) who through various different campaigns raised at least over a million dollars and kept pleading how hard done by he was and then used the money for something daft like his terrible music videos. And all I could think is, yknow what, if you gave him money, you deserved it. Because in this climate maybe I would commit to the grift and scam middle class people with white guilt out of their money.

For real though I’ve been below the poverty line more time than I care to admit and it’s hard and I hated having my hand out asking for help.

[–] pennygadget 22 points

Same with me. In my experience, people who have actually struggled understand how demoralizing it can be to ask for hand outs and hate doing it. Nobody with a shred of dignity would want begging strangers for cash to be their career

[–] Honeycreeper 2 points

Something that always sticks with me is when I see homeless women wandering high traffic roads for money, and if I see them when I’m with my mother in the car, she always says how “they’ll probably just use it for drugs. They have an iPhone but can’t get a job? I feel bad but…” and so on. That’s what I grew up with from her too.

And you know what, homeless women have to put their entire selves in immediate danger and to walk roads with cardboard signs for money, you think they like doing that? There’s such stigma around homeless that they’ll use your money unwisely yet these shits do just that and no one bats an eyelash.

These entitled wokesters are a joke and have no idea the struggles that some face to actually get any money.

[–] pennygadget 3 points

Now that I'm financially okay, I try to give a little extra to homeless women I see panhandling. I feel for the men as well. But there is so much more danger involved for the women (and the younger ones likely have children who need them).

If they spend my donation on drugs, karma will sort them out.

There’s such stigma around homeless that they’ll use your money unwisely yet these shits do just that and no one bats an eyelash.

THIS! My family was briefly homeless when I was a kid. And people looked at us like we were garbage. People assume all the homeless folks on street corners are junkies. But they'll heap praise on the internet gender-specials who e-beg for gender affirming hair dye

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[–] tahmahrah 5 points

The people on my Facebook feed were the worst for this, I swear to God. I saw GFMs for new laptops, vacations, clothes.

Not one of them was anywhere near poor, by the way.

[–] pennygadget 2 points

Not one of them was anywhere near poor, by the way.

They think "poverty" means "Mommy & Daddy don't open their wallet on demand"

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[–] pennygadget 29 points

"I need your help, y'all! I'm an omni-gender, poly-queer POC. My fascist parents won't let me spend their social security checks on blue hair dye and weed. And the only cure for my dysphoria is a special edition gold plated PS5 and a Brazilian Butt Lift. Plz donate to my PayPal. If you don't, the TERFs win!!!"

[–] Korok 👹 problem? 10 points

A PS5 would cure many things, tbqh. Still, PCMASTERRACE.

[–] pennygadget 2 points

A PS5 would cure many things, tbqh. Still, PCMASTERRACE.

OMG that comment was literal violence 😭

[–] briababieee 25 points

Hahahah oh my god my future sister-in-law fits this description to a T, except her parents keep lending her money and she's still on their insurance so she hasn't resorted to a gofundme... yet.

[–] OneOddBird 16 points

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There’s a double standard with this stuff where when POC do it for their college tuitions, or it’s single moms asking for help, or when people do it for health or funeral fundraising it’s “e-begging.” But when these folks do it for hormones and cosmetic surgery it’s lauded and they get so much money pouring in from guilty people

[–] [Deleted] 7 points

POC single mom's

There you have your answer. It's race and class privilege.

[–] mrsmeyers 20 points

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And it's always white female middle class NBs that attack their fellow women for "oppressing" TIMs 🤔 tbh I've seen this over and over again being used to get rid of competition in online communities while they scream "be kind" and "bigot!"

Always to get rid of fellow women. Not so much to cancel men, even men that aren't pretending to be women

[–] ComplicatedSpirit 9 points

I just hate the obvious pandering they get. I just saw a Reddit post from a TIM who was only talking about an unrelated eye medical condition he had, and the comments were chock fucking full of telling him how Beautiful he was, how mysterious and lovely and amazing his eyes were. They weren’t really, He had glaucoma. They weren’t ugly. But they weren’t “amazing” and “beautiful.” He’s not this gush-worthy person because he posted a photo of his eyes.

He was obvious a TIM, yet didn’t mention that in his post. So why were people falling all iver themselves to talk about how awesome and gorgeous he was, asking him all these fascinating questions about his life and cooing like pidgeons at every response he gave? Because they clocked him, and that’s their automatic response.

Had a woman or another man posted it, it just would’ve been comments about how strange they look. Not necessarily cruel, more jokingly. But it wouldn’t have been such a festival of ass-kissing. Everything was delivered in such a tone of oozing admiration, that you don’t really see in other people. Oh wow that is so cool! I’m so happy for you! I hope your life is full of adventure. Can you tell me more about what you did yesterday? Did you go to the record store?! Oh my gos, that’s so awesome! You sound like an incredible person. I feel like even if you removed the pictures, I’d be able to tell if a person was trans, just y the tone of the conversation.

It really kind of exposed for me how conditioned people are to kiss TIM ass, no matter the circumstances. I mean, I knew that before, but I guess. It just solidified it. If psychology proves true, then they’re just doing it automatically. You’re so supposed to defend TIP and tell them they’re special, that people don’t even think about it.

[–] mrsmeyers 3 points

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So much of it is pity to make people feel good about their goodness. Instead of going to the soup kitchen, helping your community in other ways you can just pity compliment the weirdos on social media. No one actually believes what they're saying, but it makes them look like good people and gets them likes.

And it makes sense only males get this pity treatment- men value other men and self insert themselves and women are brainwashed into thinking babying men = good.

It's all fake. Insincere. And these weirdos getting pity compliments actually believe it. No wonder the real world shocks them so much.

EDIT: A bit of a tangent but kindness will attract the worst, narcissistic people in my experience. They purposefully seek out kind people to abuse, even if they don't realize it. I am no longer kind to strangers, just civil, and I've noticed while I get labeled "mean" I no longer attract the socially awkward vampires that I used to befriend (and regret befriending).

[–] pennygadget 3 points

EDIT: A bit of a tangent but kindness will attract the worst, narcissistic people in my experience. They purposefully seek out kind people to abuse, even if they don't realize it. I am no longer kind to strangers, just civil, and I've noticed while I get labeled "mean" I no longer attract the socially awkward vampires that I used to befriend (and regret befriending).

I can relate. I spent so many years being "kind". All it does is drain you financially and emotionally when you're too nice and don't expect some level of reciprocity or respect in return

[–] hypatia tired of it all 8 points

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Can we also talk about the white female upper middle class women who want to sell nudes instead of get a job and then use that to justify all of their trash SWIW takes?

Because I feel like there's some overlap to those communities!

[–] OneOddBird 9 points

Do women who want to sell nudes do it because they’re lazy and don’t want to work or do they do it because they’ve been groomed? I think it’s the latter

[–] sohh 7 points

Agreed. No one gets into sex work because they're "lazy." It's almost always some combo of poor mental health, low self-esteem, financial desperation, and grooming. Even for the men who do it.

[–] Medusa91 6 points

I tried to do it for a bit. I’d lost my job, it was covid, I was desprate for money and people made it sound so… easy. I watched YouTube videos from girls who’d done it before (funnily enough none of them were still doing it). There was an interview with this one guy who ran a cam site where he said he was jealous because girls are born with a cash register between their legs.

Well it’s not easy, it’s really freaking hard even without the dehumanising, I went from selling soft nudes to cam “modelling” to a porn video with my ex boyfriend. I wanna make a post about it at some point because there’s a lot of layers to it.

Anyway there is a bit of crossover between the super well groomed middle class girls who can afford that kind of lifestyle and selling it to the girls who can’t. I don’t doubt they’ve been groomed themselves but there are sorta… layers to it

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[–] pennygadget 16 points

These people are a plague on Tumblr & Twitter. These people are lazy, entitled narcissists. So I guess it makes sense that they believe they're too special to get a job and should literally be paid just for existing

[–] puppy_cat 2 points

I've also seen plenty a time that these people actually got exposed for lying, and just swindled thousands of dollars from others, and no one seemed to care. It's so disgusting, when there are people out there actually in dire need of money for emergency surgery, chemo, etc.

[–] Researcher1536 9 points

That tweet had me on the floor! She called them OUT.

[–] CandyBarracuda 0 points

Image Transcription: Twitter

♀️, @ misandrified

you'll see the worst take of your life and under that tweet is a gofundme titled "help a queer biracial transfemme pansexual neurodivergent disabled (dyslexic) non binary escape an abusive home (i have to wash the dishes)"

[–] itsbananas 1 points

Every 🚂 FB bio 🤣

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