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Basically what the title says - I want to hear what the truth is about software development careers/jobs.
oh my god OP!!!! both of my therapists know im GC I make that clear right away I cant imagine dealing with this bullshit! I am also bisexual and have dealt with the sexual comments from strangers in normal world but never from a therapist! I am so glad you got out of there and got a better therapist!!!!
This is a late response but she sounds like she has no boundaries and I’m not surprised her daughter transed if she was overly intrusive/homophobic. So typical of many (not all) ‘parents of trans kids’ that I’ve come across
Report her to your state ethics board. Try to keep GC beliefs out of the complaint since you live in a blue state, which might get your complaint ignored. This is totally unacceptable behavior, and this woman should not be working with anyone in that capacity.
Yes, when I talked to the director I left out my GC beliefs and only focused on the pushy sex talk. I will look into reporting her to the state board. I don't have any evidence so I'll see what I can do. Thank you!
You should have reported her. Why did you feel compelled to 'be kind'? She was the one who was inappropriate. You might save someone a similar fate if you tell her superior that she is biased and has poor boundaries in sessions. That is perfectly legit.
And yes, wow, that was bad. As a bi married woman myself, I'd have bitten her head off. But then again, I bit my mother's head off when said by bisexuality was a phase and shut her down immediately. I also told her if she said anything shitty (not homophobic per se bc my sister is fully butch lesbian), I'd simply walk away from her. And then she did, and then I did. HIGHLY recommend it. Just walk away. Shut that shit down.
I was extremely flustered the day after, and I didn't want to make a scene. I did speak to the director the next week and I said I felt this was inappropriate. The director agreed and said she would take action against the therapist.
I'm glad you were able to go no contact with your mother. I'm not ready to do that, mostly because my mother is great in every other aspect except for the homophobia. Her parents are also homophobic so I try to give her a pass because "she old and that's how she was raised".
Oh, I didn't mean end the relationship, I just meant walk away from stupid convos. Its like a puppy who pees on the carpet; she needs her boundaries reinforced. It could be as simple as "if you are going to make comments like that, I am going to go." Then you see her next time. That sort of thing.
Ohhh, I misunderstood you haha. Yeah, that might be something I can work towards. Thank you :)
First of all, I want to thank you for sharing. I'm a storyteller myself and appreciate the typing involved.
As I was reading along my head kept snapping back and I gotta agree - you won the World's 3rd Shittiest Therapist lottery with that lady (1st and 2nd Places belong to rapists and personality disordered vultures) Her son is trans, so naturally she understands this bisexual woman on her crusty biphobic couch should just indiscriminately have sex with someone outside her marriage to see if she's really bi.
It's sad and funny and infuriating, your story.
I bet the Germans have a word for this feeling.
What….in the fuck? I’m sorry you were paired with the worst therapist in the world; BetterHelp listeners would’ve been more helpful than that.
She speedran every possible avenue of offense!
She asks if I have fantasies about women when I masturbate (like an idiot I told her yes). She responds "I don't think that males you bisexual. I think that's pretty common for most women".
This really sounds like the therapist is bisexual herself and in denial about it. I think you triggered her cause she gets really aggressive with you about negative biphobic stereotypes, like being extremely promiscuous.
Near the end of the agonizing hour, she mentions that she understands how hard it can be to come to terms with these topics because she "has a trans son".
She sounds homophobic. I'm sure she forced and manipulated "him" to "come to terms" with "his transness" because "he" was interested in other girls, and didn't want to perform mom's version of requisite "femininity".
One of the worst therapy stories I've heard, JFC. Even Freud himself would have done a better job. I'm glad your new therapist is better
This is what actual biphobia is. Refusing to accept bisexuals calling themselves such and trying to push a different label on them, conflating poly nonsense with us, pressuring bi women into threesomes, etc. Tra bisexuals ignore all of this and instead fixate on lesbians choosing to not date bisexuals.
That woman was being highly inappropriate and regardless of your reasons for canceling future appointments, that was none of her business and it was completely unprofessional for her to call you and inquire about it.
Right on.
I know biphobia exists all over the place and it's usually something along the lines of "well just mount everything from a bedknob to a broomstick and see which one ya like more!"
But leave it to a gEnDerSpeShul mOmMa bEaR to f*ck up this hard. Systematically ticking ALL the biphobic boxes and charging god knows what per hour just for the pleasure of making it plain that she did NOT bother getting her continuing education credits in human sexuality 😀
So. Bad.
I don’t understand why they’re still forcibly associating lgb people with trans activism. They’re extremely homophobic and weaponize false claims of biphobia to harass lesbians. “Queer” people are really just antagonistic to lgb people. And most of them are spicy straights too