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CareerJob stress: want to change career!
Been stressed out lately in this low-entry "tech support" type of job. We have been getting flooded with phone calls lately from angry customers asking about their accounts and not knowing once the trial ends, it has to be paid for (unless they want to stick with a crappy free version with limited features)/and blame us(even though we're not the sales person advising of product, all we do is help troubleshoot and provide info on product if asked, that is all.)
Anyways...apart from that, I am working on TWO projects at once--creating reference material for trainees. One for the tech department and one for the retailer part of the department AND I some times train newbies....but I am not even in a supervisor position, they just make me do these things...
Besides that, I have been stressed out that this company has managed to pay me $0 for 3 paychecks and having to wait a WEEK to get it when I have bills to pay and a family to support.
Lastly...all of my bosses are male(yes, even you TiM boss). They are all extremely difficult to work with. One, who I shall call the sloth is lazy and hardly helps and gives the wrong a answers to agents and argumentive. The other, who's the "professor" will talk down on you like an idiot and overexplain things. And lastly, the TiM, who's above both the sloth and the professor---he's like Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde. Can be very rude to you or "sweet" depending on his mood. He constantly brags about himself.
Then there's also the coworkers who always complain about me not being on the phones even though I'm forced to do these projects and the big wigs WANT me to do these too(WAAAAAY above TiM boss) so it's just a neverending crap battle of being told different things and people talking down on me, even though I AM WORKING like they are. If they want to do these sh*t projects, then I would be more than happy to turn it over to their lazy arses.
Anyways....
I really want to quit.
I'm looking into getting into the tech field(for now), but more specifically programming. I'm mostly skilled in HTML & CSS(I know, I know, not really a "programming" language but markup...) And know a tiny bit of C++ from taking college classes.
I do have a dumb dream of making my own video game(programming/art/music) but I've been super stressed out lately and haven't done any hobbies.
My brothers do music on the side(one is full time and quit his job, the other is in trade work and does music on the side--they're in a band together that barely started up).
They invited me to join...and I was wondering if it would be a good idea or incredibly stupid to do at this time.
I get paid decent at this job but the stress is sucking and I used to never call out and now I do. I asked for a raise many times for being bilingual and they declined but still make me take those annoying calls/case work.
I can't talk to HR because they're biased.
Sometimes I just want to QUIT and NOT put in my 2wks because of how they have been treating me.
I do have other plans though!
I found a place that certifies for quickbooks, forklift, landscaping, perm. makeup, etc for a minimum of 4wks! Then their sister company helps you find a job based on that. They pay for your classes if you're unemployed and make very little...
Anyways...I'm not sure EXACTLY what I want to do---just have a lot of hobbies and aspirations that I need to focus on---at least one..
I went to school for cpu engineering but never finished.
Then thought of doing web dev(have some experience, but that was YEARS ago) or programming.
I wanted to become an environmental scientist at one point too...
Then a language tutor, a comic book artist/animator, video game dev, musician, flipping houses, plumber, etc.
Just can't focus anymore. Busy with baby. Busy worrying about whether they will pay me or screw me over. Tired of the company making us do mandatory OT and hardly spending time with my family.
I keep getting cold feet whenever I apply for jobs. The only people who see and respond to resume is customer service jobs similar to current--which stresses me out. I was going to do trade jobs, but they're hard to get into(usually far from where I live or "on the call" or male dominated) and I don't have a truck or my own tools.
What should I do?
I already had a nice person help fix my resume from saidit---if you're here on Ovarit then hi & thank you for your help!!
Note: sorry if I am slow at responding/replying back. I will try to get to the comments. Just been sad and overwhelmed lately due to work and other life stuff.
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He's jealous that we "pass" ? Lol dude we don't "pass", we are.
Seems fake though. I refuse to believe anyone thinks yuri is what life is supposed to be. I just can't !
I've known of a couple of people who seemed to live life vicariously through anime, obsessing over how "this is how it should be!". Funny enough, they weren't TRAs or TiMs (or at least they weren't at the time), but socially stunted males with conservative leanings who complained about "3D women" not being feminine and submissive enough, like anime girls are.
So I do believe this guy really thinks that way.
socially stunted males
Exactly like TIMs ...
Haha, right! As I was typing it, I was thinking "wait a minute, am I just describing TiMs again...?"
"socially stunted males with conservative leanings who complained about "3D women" not being feminine and submissive enough"
Surely these are super attractive, masculine men any one of us is dying to submit to 🙄
I totally believe it. It's just another variant of incel boys. It's an old cap I found on KF.
I searched for his username. He has since deleted it, but he used to post in r/LesbianGamers: https://www.reddit.com/r/LesbianGamers/comments/afovhl/tfw_a_degenerate_guy_on_instagram_is_salty_im/
Another one of his posts, from r/translesbians, reads "The struggles of being born male". So it checks out.
Old posts found via https://pholder.com/u/crayonization/?page=2
(Archive https://archive.is/Sjk1L)
EDIT: He's got a thread on KF. Name Alex Vidal, apparently.
Oh, it’s HIM. I remember him being featured a lot in screencaps on r/GC. Yeah, this is legit and not a troll and this man is absolutely insane.
Oh, is that who wrote that? I've seen some of his other "work" on the old "itsafetish" on preddit. He's got some really concerning issues.
Porn sick and sex obsessed. I feel gross after reading that, but laughed out loud at his inability to see his own hypocrisy regarding his partner LOL he knows he's a guy, he knows the dude he's dating is a guy
You have no goddamn idea of my sense of longing, how much I would slaughter every friend I've ever had just to be a girl.
That man needs to be contained and get professional help . Like yesterday.
He’s a meth addict now from what I recall. It’s sad he didn’t get the mental health help he obviously needs. I think this movement is as much a symptom of a nationwide mental health crisis as it is a symptom of misogyny and male entitlement
Oh jeez, if he got into meth, his ADHD was probably untreated. Damn, dude really needs some help (still a creep tho)
Nothing says mentally stable like 'I would slaughter every friend I've ever had just to be a girl.' This guy needs to get off the internet and into intensive therapy.
And then he complains that "90%" of his friends abandoned him. I can see why they did..
"Dysphoria" is a diagnostic euphemism for self loathing, people need to wake up to the fact that the mentally unwell gleam onto "trans" as a explanation for their mental disturbances and self loathing... the exact sort who we should not be granting access to to women and children's spaces.
"cis women can pass"... " They're born happy"...
This really is the stupidest, most nakedly misogynist ideology imaginable.
The whole notion of "cis privilege" only serves to justify extreme hatred of women by defining our bodies as some sort of bizarre "unearned privilege."
Lol I know right? Yeah I'm sure all those women in Egypt and parts of India who can't go outside without the risk of being sexually assaulted by a male were born so happy...
They run around ascribing all sorts of feelings and attitudes to us as if the worst thing in the world was to treat us as fellow human beings and actually make an effort to get to know women in their lives.
Not to mention all the girls and women all over the world who are sexually assaulted in their homes on a regular basis.
Wait, wait. "Cis women can pass without makeup". Hahaha.
Pass as a woman. Pass as a real woman. Like, "this apple passes as an apple, wow! It looks like an apple, smells like an apple, tastes like an apple, and even, go figure, matches exactly the standard DNA for an apple's genome. Wow, it passes, I could swear it's an actual apple". FFS
My favourite part is when he complains about how hard his life is
I lost 90% of my friends coming out, and I have a mostly -phobic family, I also barely get to see my little sister
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You have no idea how much I've cut myself, how many times I've straight up wanted to die... how many times I've cried myself to sleep wishing my family would accept me... and how many FUCKING times I wished I could have just been a normal girl
Like women don't go through any of that stuff, ever. Like aside from the trans part, which arguably you did to yourself with your rampant porn consumption, you're not alone in any of that.
But women are vacuous creatures whose only complaint is our dad left us and ANIMATED PORN is what real lesbian life looks like.
This is just disgusting on another level. This guy needs to spend some time outside working on a farm or something. (send him to the ranch)
I honestly don't know how these absolute losers can type up these long ass stories about how ''awful'' (self inflicted) their life is and not think ''wait... this makes me sound like a pathetic loser, better delete this'' and they still post it.
Also he himself is transphobic since he sees his TIM partner as a male?? Wtf kind of hypocrisy is that.
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Oh my, you're in for a ride. The Tenacious Unicorn Ranch is out in Colorado where the infamous Kevin Gibes and bunch of other TIMs all act out their trans fantasies of being self-sufficient and militaristic. They show off their guns on a regular basis, and have done a very poor job of keeping up the ranch. They've destroyed the natural grassland area in their property by overgrazing with about 200 alpacas, a bunch of sheep, I think one cow (?), and a few other animals here and there. They do not take very good care of their animals, either, so it's a bit of a sad situation.
There's a big thread on the Kiwi Farms about it, if you feel like deep diving and learning more. They've also had some fluff news pieces about them:
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They can't, their alpaca herd fluctuates a lot in size (which probably means they're dying). They're incompetent at everything: feeding, shelter, there's so many "surprise" crias. I highly recommend reading their thread on KF, the users pick apart their incompetency very thoroughly.
Poor alpacas tho, they don't deserve it.
It's a Dr Phil reference where he sends badly behaved teenagers to do hard labor at a ranch for a while lol (think of emo teens cursing at their moms/stealing stuff and being sent there)
Good lord, this man needs to seek help.
I really don't get all this angst when the solution is really really simple. Just accept who you are and date straight women? No woman wants to touch you because you've turned yourself into a psychopath over this impossible fantasy of actually turning into a female.
I know I am preaching to the choir here, but I read these sometimes and it's like.... How can he not see the simple solution to this problem?
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Ha, I'm straight too, and I like to think I wouldn't end up with someone like this. But men do put up a pretty good front, it takes a while before you see their true colors.
This is the result of incel "LiFe wOuLd bE eaSier If I waS a Wimmim" thinking.
Somehow he thought transition would be girl mode "life on easy street" as the MRAs say. Rather do that then work on his mental health, improve his shitty life and self image and try to get nerdy girlfriend like himself. Maybe help and support each other. But no, socially handicapped women like himself don't exist or are beneath him, like all men he feels entitled to his exact target of desire, which is a fantasy women whether its, victoria secret model, sex slave, tradwife, anime lesbian. Etc
Admittedly, lack of reality and delusions can be the mental illness its self and these isolated, terminally online mentally ill people are not organically waking up with "wrong body" thoughts, that idea is being feed to them and unscrupulous professionals are taking advantage, transing and mutilating the vulnerable.
It really says a lot how he exclusively watches yuri anime instead of actual films featuring real women. TIMs don't want to be real women. They don't even LIKE real women. They just want to be a pornified, fake, unrealistic caricature of a woman.
I also don't know how anyone can read this and not come to the conclusion that being trans is a mental illness.
I really believe this is how every single "transbian" TIM feels, but won't express. It's why they don't want to date other "transbians" and why they push so hard for acceptance into lesbian and female spaces. They are not happy with just transitioning, they want acceptance by fantasy women to give them the perfect anime life they deserve. Women are props in this narrative, and evil TERFs are standing in their way of everything they want.
Yeah, they are incels and think they have a right to their sexual fantasies at any cost, simple as that.
??? Is this? Satire? Like this is so over the top but some really are like this, it is hard to tell.
I searched for his username. He has since deleted it, but he used to post in r/LesbianGamers: https://www.reddit.com/r/LesbianGamers/comments/afovhl/tfw_a_degenerate_guy_on_instagram_is_salty_im/
Another one of his posts, from r/translesbians, reads "The struggles of being born male". So it checks out.
Old posts found via https://pholder.com/u/crayonization/?page=2
(Archive https://archive.is/Sjk1L)
EDIT: He's got a thread on KF. Name Alex Vidal, apparently.
I can't cackle in schadenfreude over that one. It's too disturbing and pathetic. His torment rings true to me. This is what happens when young people become isolated from friends and family and go deep into the darkness of their own heads.
“Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster... for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also into you.”
― Friedrich W. Nietzsche
This has got to be a troll. It’s almost so vile it’s hilarious. I’m unironically laughing.
I wonder how his partner and friends would feel reading how he really feels about them.
Sounds like a genital fetishist. He needs to go to therapy to get over his internalized cissexism. His genital preference is bigotry and it is harming his girlfriend.
These men are never going to be women and imo it's cruel to allow them to believe otherwise. Help them to accept reality. I wanted soooo badly to be tall so I could play in the WNBA, but guess what? There is nothing I can do about it, so I <gasp> learned to accept it and I moved on. Just like star wars grandpa, we need to stop coddling these people, they need a healthy dose of reality.
"and even with a vaginoplasty, they NEVER will be an acceptable analogue."
Wow! I actually am shocked this incel even recognized that out loud. Most of them seem to think that surgical front holes and vaginas are apples to apples.
Go outside, touch some grass - as the kids say. I know this is way more thought than this person deserves but I wonder if his ADHD is treated? But yeah this guy needs to log off and get some help
I'm sorry but I laughed out loud legitimately at the vibrator being his only friend and the image of a grown ass fucking man sobbing to hentai while a vibrator 'steadily shakes his crotch' hahahaha. what a fucking actual pathetic loser of a person. wow. so glad no lesbian will go near this loser with a thousand foot stick it seems. was he thinking the sobbing while masturbating thing would be poetic? like, what is that? haahaha oh my god
Lmao he sees his trans girlfriend as a male yet complaints about lesbians seeing him as one. What a piece of entitled shit.đź’©