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Add the ability to report DMs
Didn't think I'd ever have to request this, especially on this site, but here we are. It would be really useful to be able to report nasty and harassing DMs other users send us. Noticed there was no way for me to report a harassing message the way we can report comments for rule breaking and I feel like this is something that should be able to be brought up to mods.
Males should not be allowed to care for children, disabled people, dead bodies or the elderly. I'm tempted to put animals on that list as well.
I feel we should allow males to care for other adult males (and male corpses).
We can't just provide them with women's labour just because they're a danger to each other. They have to sort that out among themselves.
Plus, disabled or elderly men can still be a danger to women.
I'll make an exception for male children. I do think there's a benefit in them seeing adult males in caring roles, but the risks are just too high.
Yes, remember this guy?
I thought about that creep immediately. I feel the only animals they can care for are dangerous adult animals like large land predators, venomous snakes and insects.
I’ve said this on the site a number of times but I will say it again: intimate care should not be provided to women, especially vulnerable women, by men.
Honestly, I don't understand why this is done at all in caring homes, etc. There is no need! There are plenty of women to do those jobs! It's still a woman-dominated profession! (I suspect it'd be quite easily possible to assign the male carers to males, only, without even having to fire any.)
A son caring for his elderly mother because she just so happened to have only sons, okay.
But why intentionally create such a situation?
In a best case scenario, it will be uncomfortable for all involved. And that's the best case. It only gets worse from there.
If I ever get too frail or sickly to live alone in old age, I'll have to take advantage of the legal assisted suicide (which I criticise for letting society sweep its failings under the carpet, which ... is exactly what that would be) because there's NO WAY I'm letting a strange man touch my private parts. (Yeah, I am missing out on quite a bit of medical care, already.) I'd have to write a very strongly worded suicide letter in that case.
I know one reason - lifting. My Mum has many falls, and none of the women carers (who are all tiny Indian or south-east Asian women) would be able to lift her from the floor. She needs two people to help her in the loo, and it's often one man and one woman.
Fair enough, but surely a man can be on staff to be called on when some heavy lifting is to be done, and doesn't need to do things he's less suited to.
Definitely, but he'd still have to be in a job classification that permitted it.
Exactly this
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