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I'd recommend your spouse go ASAP.
I've lost three siblings, all of whom died tragically young after long gruesome illnesses that wrung the life out of the rest of the family, so I suppose I should have lots of helpful tips and wise word. But I don't. This kind of situation and loss just sucks.
One piece of advice is not to expect the best of everyone in the family. Whilst some people "rise to the occasion" in times of tragedy like this, a lot of people do the opposite. Some people fall apart. Some behave like assholes. So give everyone in the family latitude, space and grace.
Another piece of advice is for your husband to make direct contact with the point person on his brother's medical team who can relay information to him directly. Getting a picture of what's going on and what to expect from "the horse's mouth" so to speak is better, and more reliable, than having to go through his mother/your MIL.
I'm sorry for what you and your husband are going through.
Thank you so much for your advice. This is really valuable. I have tried to interpret events in the "space and grace" vein for husband, will keep doing that. The advice about the medical point person is great. I will pass that along for sure.
I am sorry to hear you and your husband are going through this. I am very glad to hear he has changed his flight to going sooner. That was excellent advice.
Let your husband know that his brother may only be up for short visits and may tire very quickly. It will be hard to know exactly what the situation is in regards to the physical realities of his brothers hospice journey so your husband will need to modify and adapt to whatever the situation presents.
It can be such a blessing not only to the person dying, but to all the loved ones present to have someone there to talk to or do simple tasks to help. Just being there is a great gift.
Your role will be to help your husband process what he is going through as he is going through it. Let him know you are there to listen whenever he needs to talk.
I just recently went through an at home hospice with my dad. What got me through that dark time the most was having my friend to talk and text to. Just being able to share the burden of it all with her was one of the greatest gifts she could have provided to me. It wasn't anything special she said but she was there to listen or read what I wrote. That can really make a difference.
Thank you for your wisdom 🙏❤️
I am so glad husband changed his flight and is going this week.
I have reached out to the brother and other family members directly now, too. I can tell already that what you say about simply having someone be there is important. I will keep supporting them. Thank you.
Remind him that when the future is too big to face that it's okay to take life heartbeat by heartbeat until he can look further ahead.
This is beautiful
It's how I made it after I was widowed - the best advice I've ever been given. And, it was a woman who shared it with me.
Change the flight and go now.
We talked - he is looking for a flight on Wednesday now. I appreciate the advice.
I can't speak to losing a sibling, but I have lost my mom to cancer and she was in hospice. Honestly the best thing to do is to just be there, be willing to talk, laugh, cry. It's very isolating and lonely when a loved one is dying.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I appreciate your advice. I told my husband that I will come out to support the family when they want me to. I'll be there to make food, bring them tea, hug them, cry with them.
I would get there as soon as possible, as in take the next flight available. It would not be regretted. Worrying about imposing when a family member is dying and missing meaningful time together will on the other hand likely be deeply regretted.
That's my thought too. I'll keep advocating for that.
As soon as possible, his brother will only deteriorate in his mental and physical capacities. So the opportunity to talk to him should be done now. When someone is in hospice a lot of time is just spent sitting with them and chatting, if they are up to it, or taking time away so they can sleep and rest. It helps grieving relatives if they have a few things they can do that they know will help their loved ones and the people they care about.
His brother might be worrying about the practical aspects of the life he is leaving behind - small jobs to be done for family, arrangements that need attending, any issues that come up quietly in a conversation that your husband can help sort out. There might be some small items that will add some humanity to his hospice room. Your MIL would probably be relieved to have your husband helping out and easing the burden on her.
THANK YOU for bringing up this point. Neither of us had considered it, but you are obviously right. He is looking into flights ASAP because of this!
Yes. Just get there. Because the regret if you don’t will be awful. You will know how to respond to the situation once you’re there and see what it is. I’m so sorry for you and your husband and his family. This must be very painful. Even when you know it’s coming it’s always a shock. Good luck and Godspeed.
Thank you for your kind thoughts!
For real. I wouldn't waste any time. I would never forgive myself if one of my douchebag brothers was dying and I didn't get to see him one last time.
They're douchebags, but they're my douchebags
This brother isn't even a douchebag 😭