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I get to have my oldest on her birthday this year so we're planning a special overnight shopping trip, just the two of us. I think it will be really fun and I'm looking forward to it. Ever since I was pregnant with her I hoped we would be able to bond like I bonded with my mom and my grandma this way. When she was a preemie I wondered if she would ever be "normal" and if she would be healthy. And she's absolute magic 🥰
That is really lovely! I had many siblings and my Mom tried to carve out individual time with us on specific days so we would feel special and not lost in the crowd. I'm sure it will be a big memory for your daughter.
Since potty training (yay) my 3yo has discovered a whole new avenue of methods to stall bedtime. On one hand I don't want to send a 3yo to bed with a full baldder, on the other hand "you've gone potty 3 times in the last 10 minutes." My oldest did the same. But we're done with diapers so I'll take it.
My 2yo refuses to sleep without me. He is lying on top of me sleeping as I type, having just woken up halfway through his nap and run through the house screaming "Mamma, where are you?!"
I used to be able to get out of bed after nursing him to sleep, and get some chores done or have some quiet time to myself before a late night wake up (or waking normally from his afternoon nap.) Now, it seems I'm rarely able to get away... He wakes up and cries when I try to sneak out.
It's at the point where I can't even roll over in bed to stretch my back, because he will wake up and say "mamma, roll over, I can't see your face!" And just the other night, he was awake every hour, demanding to nurse nonstop.
I can't complain IRL because no one cares or can empathize... I don't have any female friends and both my mother and MIL think I should stop nursing and cosleeping and sleep train him already.
He is obviously going through something and this time will pass, but fuck! I am so tired and so touched out. I just want one day of physical freedom and one night of uninterrupted sleep ffs.
My 2yo is the same. If I roll over in bed he panics and wants to nurse. If I get up to go to the bathroom or take too long brushing my teeth it's the end of the world. He used to at least sleep in but now I'm lucky if I get 5 minutes in the morning to make his sister's lunch before he wakes up and toddles himself downstairs crying to nurse.
I thought he was going through a phase but now I think he's just over sleep.
I remember those clingy times, and days of never getting space and time alone, and I’m sending solidarity. It’s SO HARD. It will end, but that doesn’t make it easier in the meantime.
Idk sleep is the hardest thing! My twins didn’t start sleeping through the night mostly until we weaned at 2.5 because I couldn’t take it any more. I’m not a cosleeping parent long term and after they’re about 18 months, I just wanted to escape them some times. They still get up once a night looking for me and it’s been four months.
Oh god, I can't imagine nursing twins at that age!
My older child was bottle fed. He slept well on his own but when I was pregnant with this one, I would sleep with him every night, mostly so I could get a full night of rest and not be disturbed by my husband going to bed ridiculously late. I still miss those lovely nights just cuddling! lol. Really looking forward to complaining about kids who wake up and climb into my bed halfway through the night. This timeline is so sweet but so fucking hellish.
I’ve nursed all four of my kids and I really struggled to understand when to stop and how to stop. The twins also had formula (supplemented), but that was such an easier transition. My daughters were also difficult to get down to sleep for a while.
I feel I missed out so much with my first, I've always said I would this let one wean when he's ready. Hopefully we won't be those weirdos who are still nursing at 5?
Although I always thought it was "weird" to nurse a baby old enough to ask for it in a complete sentence, and it's really not, so what do I know
No one warned me how difficult a snow day would be.
I thought the kids would be easily entertained by tossing them out in the snow while I watched from a couch in front of a window.
But no, it's been tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. And because there's so much new stuff (like gloves) and rules (your wet shoes go in this tray now), they're less independent.
Also, apparently warning my kids for a week that snow is "frozen water" did not prepare them that it would be both cold and wet.
I got a positive pregnancy test yesterday, so I’m not a mom yet, but I’ve already received unsolicited advice and some shaming, lol. Is this how the rest of the 200-something days are going to be? It’s been bizarre because I feel total elation and dread at the same moment.