I will never tell anyone that I will support him no matter what. (I'd probably be a shitty mother, because I don't think I could ever bring myself to tell my own children that.)

In the end, unless you are a psychopath, love may be unconditional, but support? Support has to be conditional, or you end up in prison for aiding and abetting.

And I'd rather be honest about that, so that I'm not vulnerable to the kind of emotional blackmail this guy is exerting on everyone close to him. "I thought you loved me, but now that I decided to live my pervy fetish 24/7, you have abandoned me, you faithless traitor!"

I mean. The only other thing his friends could have done would have been to advise him against transing until HE cut THEM off. (And then they'd probably be in prison for transphobia.)

Let's be honest here: Love is almost always conditional, too. If you tell someone you love them unconditionally, what you really mean may be "I will still love you even if you have an accident and lose half your face and become ugly and need care 24/7" ... but it usually does not mean "I will still love you when you warp into a complete and utter pervert, dress in womanface and demand access to women's spaces"

Most people acknowledge that. We judge people who leave their spouses who got cancer, but we don't judge people who leave their spouses who turned into (or rather, revelaed they were) abusive assholes.

Who wants to bet that almost everyone, (if not everyone) who "left" and "abandoned" him did so bc of his addiction issues? Or they put up with and supported him through the addiction, then when he pulled this trans shit, they said, "enough is enough"

I'm a recovering addict and while I'm not an attention seeker (I isolate) a lot of addicts are. Addiction is a nightmare to deal with for so many reasons

This is a post he did about his 'girlfriend' a couple of weeks ago.

This girl (27F) and I (24F) started a comitted relationship after just a few dates. About a week later I told her it felt too soon to me and wanted to slow things down and remove the label. She asked me if I wanted to remain exclusive and I said I wanted to go on dates and get a little more perspective on our relationship because I don't have a lot of dating experience and she is welcome to do the same. About a week passes and we hang out again and she's initiating sex. Before things go too far, I ask her if she's been with anyone since last week and she says that she has.

Mentally, I know that it shouldn't bother me because we hadn't really discussed physical stuff and we did open things back up. But emotionally it's just left me feeling really alone and like I don't want to be around anyone. I had made up my mind not to get physical with anyone while she and I were figuring things out. She has been telling me how special I am to her and stuff. I'm really glad she was honest with me about it, but I can't help feeling kind of hurt and I'm not sure why or if it's okay to feel that.

Wait until his girlfriend's "savior" tendencies are stretched so far she finally peaks, and he loses her, too.

I'm sorry this guy is such a massive psychological mess, but until he sees that it's not their so-called transphobia but his undoubtedly weird (and probably offensive) behavior that is responsible for his isolation, he will continue to suffer.

I remember thinking, when my ex, an AGP TIM, was planning to begin living as his idea of a woman (what he called "transition"), that all our colleagues (we were university profs) who paid lip service to trans issues would say supportive things to him but want nothing to do with him. It sounds like that might be the case with this guy, too.

Hmmmm. What ever could be the reason for EVERYONE abandoning a person? Has the guy ever seriously considered that HE IS THE PROBLEM?

I know, I know. How cutesy. How trite. But troublesome people always seem to think that they are just sitting around, being sad, or mired in their own issues and everyone ELSE is failing them. No one else cares enough.

In my experience, if all the people who were always there for you seem to be drifting away and you can’t figure out why? TAKE A GOOD LONG LOOK IN THE MIRROR.

You’re not at the center of everybody’s life, he’s expecting people to pander to him 24/7 which is not realistic. You can’t expect others to be your emotional support animal when they have their own lives. I bet this man does not give any support back either, he’s the kind that takes , takes and takes some more without giving anything.