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Anaktorias_SecretNovember 19, 2024(Edited November 19, 2024)

There was a man / TIM once who said “women make this so overblown like people just use the bathroom to pee and then leave anyway” which is EXACTLY why they do not belong in our spaces. They will never experience stopping on a roadtrip to change your pad because you’re leaking and there’s one shared dirty bathroom barely with a trash can and men going around their business around and you need to do the embarrassing strap sound to open the pad. While your friend comes in from the pharmacy with pain meds and talks to you by the sink so you chill a bit. Men don’t even know this happens and that is exactly why they should stay on their lane.

Plus the sexism/androcentrism involved in “why do women do useless womanly gossip and socialization in the bathroom that is not the objective use of bathrooms if only they used it correctly this wouldn’t be an issue” coupled with “I as a man think a lesbian will use the female bathroom wrong because she must objectify women just like I do therefore women are just hypocrites”. Now it’s convenient for them to claim lesbians are predatory when usually they infantilize us!

NoNameNovember 19, 2024

Not once have I ever been made to feel uncomfortable by a lesbian. Ever, in any space at all and I did a lot of sports when I was younger.

Anaktorias_SecretNovember 19, 2024

As a young lesbian I was the terrified one. That I would make someone uncomfortable. Straight women were always more at ease in changing rooms

SomeoneElseTired Of ThisNovember 19, 2024

I’m a lesbian. I’m terrified of making other women feel uncomfortable to the point of keeping my eyes on the floor and hurrying through.

I’m also not a horny predator trying to edge in on women’s spaces and rights and thinking about raping someone, so there’s that.

TrappedInACarNovember 20, 2024

I saw this comment. He followed it up by claiming that a nude sauna was like a free strip club for lesbians. Like others have said, I’m always hyper aware of myself in spaces where women are naked because I don’t want them to think I’m checking them out just because I’m a lesbian. I also don’t get turned on just because women are naked around me in non-sexual situations. Men are so weird.

PrairieNovember 19, 2024

And lets look at this practically, too. If there's a very rare violent and mentally ill lesbian out to fuck someone up in the bathroom, another woman would have a decent chance of fighting her off. If there's a TIM skulking around, women would have a much smaller chance of fighting him off.

HEReticNovember 19, 2024(Edited November 19, 2024)

Increasingly more butch women ARE being confronted in women's spaces. It's because of your movement, and perhaps, I think, intentional. So, thanks for that.

I think it's a common lesbian outlook to always be super aware and mindful to avoid making women uncomfortable by our sexuality. We are NOT the same as you.

broccolipathsofgloryNovember 19, 2024

I have never, ever felt uncomfortable in the presence of a lesbian. I have also never been afraid of a lesbian.

FastWavesNovember 19, 2024(Edited November 19, 2024)

So only be nude in locker rooms if I'm a-okay with creeps staring at me? Got it, you said the quiet part loud.

Lesbians, women of color, infertile women - they're constantly trying to divide us and demand why we should be on their side. Why they think their "struggle" is the same like it's some handmaiden recruiting mission.

DahliaNovember 19, 2024

So telling how he thinks that lesbians are predatory just like he and the rest of his kind are, as if the predatory nature is a result of who we are attracted to—placing those temptresses/lesser beings/human property known as “women” at fault. He thinks that lesbians must think and act more along the lines of men than women.

overanddoneNovember 19, 2024

With all they claim to know about "feeling female", it's amazing this has to be explained to them.

Over and over.

Lemonade_MasqueradeNovember 19, 2024

Your insistence on bringing your dick into our bathrooms is creepy and reason enough why no one should trust you. Lesbians have been wrongly discriminated against by homophobes uncomfortable with the idea of them in restrooms and changing rooms. But lesbians are using spaces that are rightfully theirs to use. You, sir, are barging in with your male strength, male entitlement, and male appendages that are used against women every day to take spaces that are not for you and we don't want you.

RadisheNovember 19, 2024

Dressed up, but it's all men thinking they know best and can tell women what to do.

I"ve known many lesbians in my life, even some who tried to be as crude as men, but I never met one who perved on other women in the restroom. We don't do that. That's a man thing. I also don't really see women gossiping in the restroom. That's a male fear/fantasy. On occasion I've seen them touching up makeup or something.

Plus, I really don't care what's in anybody's head. It's the exposure, flaunting erections, intimidation, and violence that is the problem here.

MaryDyer [OP]November 19, 2024

flaunting erections

This. So much this. Lesbians, as females, do not possess sex organs that have been used as literal weapons of war. Real lesbians, transbian, and straight men are all interested in sex with women, but only two of those groups have the desire to, and the means with which to, violently assault women.

quiggyNovember 19, 2024

That 60% is only going up and up. I imagine the OG transsexuals were mostly HSTS but now AGP is more and more aggressively normalized and "centered." I would be surprised if it wasn't much higher already. If I see a TIM, I assume he's an AGP and I'm almost always right.

MaryDyer [OP]November 19, 2024

The number of TIMs in my city is growing by the month and out of the twenty or so I’ve seen over the past six months, only two were obviously gay men. The rest were AGP anime types with greasy hair and poorly fitting skirts.

WristfeversGendervapour ôvôNovember 19, 2024

Timothys really, really hate homosexual women.

StrawberryCoughNovember 19, 2024

Such a male take. If they even tried to understand women, they would never say this. "Seems to me..." exactly.

TheSimbulNovember 19, 2024

Dude, your homophobia is showing.