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Very sad. Radical acceptance of her sex might work here, combined with proper feminist learning, i.e., being told that the only thing 'woman' means is that the person is biologically female. It does NOT mean that the person should simper or wear frilly things or have big breasts or wear makeup etc, and it doesn't mean that she couldn't be a pilot or almost anything she wants to and can do in the West (with the usual exceptions of patriarchy, Catholic priesthood, inheriting male titles among English nobility etc.).

I have been incredibly astonished by the way the young have silently trotted back to extremely sexist and retrogressive views about how men and women are supposed to be. Things are worse than in the 1990s when I became aware of these issues. Is it porn everywhere? Popular online culture? If feminist books had been completely banned I could see how this has happened, but I really don't understand why we have retreated.

Add the commercialization of the female body together with its erasure outside porn and I get why young girls don't want to become women. But they can't become men.

I had no idea when I was living through it what a relatively golden time the 1990's were for women. But I see it now in retrospect.

Me too and it isn’t like sexism and misogyny had disappeared from the landscape but we had hope that things would continue to get better. Now we have this instead.

I didn't realize how many female role models I had in the 90s who weren't selling sex as their primary value. I miss that. I feel like once the spice girls came on the scene in the late 90s, it's been downhill ever since.

If feminist books had been completely banned I could see how this has happened, but I really don't understand why we have retreated.

A lot of people don't read books anymore. They rely in what Google tells them, which explains a whole lot.

I don't know about this specific person, but yeah porn is a huge factor. It ruthlessly stereotypes men as having to be a certain way and women as having to be in a certain (opposite) way. Even gay and lesbian porn tend to only show visibly hyper-masculine men and hyper-feminine women.

is it porn everywhere?

Yes.

popular online culture?

This is influenced entirely by porn.

[–] SakuraBlossoms transheight 7'3" 12 points

i have to try so hard to even attempt to match their level [of masculinity]

monitoring everything I say

Wow, I'm glad transitioning has finally allowed her to be her true authentic self! 🏳️‍⚧️🥳👍

[–] spaghettiforhair LiTeRaLlYvIoLeNt 38 points

My heart breaks for this person. This is why medical transition shouldn't be advertised to children and young adults as a cure-all for low self-esteem, trauma, and other mental health problems. I hope this person seeks real help, recovers, and finds real happiness.

The gender extremists are making a mess of autistic kids. OF COURSE she's autistic.

She's so fully and completely embracing the idea that only men get to be human. No wonder she is depressed...

Yes, you are.

No female can become a male. Your bound breasts, mastectomied breasts, arm graft scar, phalloplasty, and everything you do to make yourself seem more like a man are themselves proof of your being female. No male has to do this.

You get better by stopping trying to be what you are not and accepting yourself as you are. You never needed to do any of this.

Jesus christ this is so upsetting to read. None of them know what the fuck they are doing or that none of it changes them into a man. They've been sold nothing but lies.

Well duh, people need to stop lying to her, including her therapist. This is a prime example of how damaging it is to affirm these feelings rather than confront them head on.

You're not inferior to men, you're a woman. Enjoy it. It makes you better in so many ways.

A lot of what she’s aspiring to is the result of a lifetime of male privilege. Someone who’s always felt uncomfortable in her skin isn’t going to put on a lifetime of entitlement just by changing her pronouns. Yeah, it’s sad.

Professional therapist, spends an hour with a patient: Trans all the way, go for it!! Casual stranger, spends 40 seconds "meeting" the patient through Reddit: Wow, I count 3 red flags. You should NOT have transitioned.

And it's always like that. Red flags.all.over.the.place.

I'd offer a counterpoint - when I gently question trans-identified children in a therapeutic setting, many do not "play ball" and immediately sense an "attack." I still do it because, hello, but it's hard to engage teenagers into challenging their thought errors and behaviours when their whole world is just about themselves (which is developmentally appropriate for a teen, but makes transgender ideology poison).

[–] SakuraBlossoms transheight 7'3" 6 points

I've tried to talk reason to both trans-identified adults and minors, and they all get extremely defensive or hostile. They've been groomed into thinking that if someone doesn't fully support gender ideology in any way they're an enemy of the cult, a bigot and infidel, one of the evil "homophobes" or TERFs they've been warned about. I would expect the same reaction from a member of any other cult.

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