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I know this is a common topic here, but I was just reflecting on my own experiences and it really stuck out to me that in a lot of ways, young women are really set up to fail when it comes to sex and love these days.
Libfem sex positivity not only encourages crazy amounts of experimentation, all in the name of appearing empowered and self-actualized, but also encourages lax to no monogamy.
The combination is particularly toxic, in the same way that sometimes two already bad things combine to create a substance even more toxic than the two by themselves.
Pushing your sexual boundaries and exploring your fantasies, or whatever it is you want to do, will only ever be satisfying within a relationship where you feel trust and respect. Libfems and sex positive apologists always handwave this point, in an "of course you should trust your partner and no means no", but it always feels like a perfunctory disclaimer that they don't really mean. Reminds me of how people will always start with "Of COURSE you're allowed to say no to sex with anyone, BUT ..." before they rip into lesbians for not wanting dick. There's the unspoken question, "What's wrong with you if you don't?"
So not only are they encouraging young women to make themselves vulnerable for no reason, they're then also encouraging people to be ok with poly relationships and argue that those relationships are just as valid and safe.
In theory, it sounds great - but in my experience, and the experience of literally EVERY other woman I know, poly relationships in practice are not egalitarian. There is no such thing as equally splitting love. Eventually, you will be assigned a priority, and you won't find out what that priority is until you need the support desperately...
It's funny to me that people get so hung up on kinks, when the vast majority of people are really just looking for partners who they click with on a personal level so that they can have FUN when they're together. They spend so much time thinking about what they're supposed to do to be hot that they don't just do it, and figure it out from experience.
Just feeling frustrated by this - I think the encouragement of emotional detachment from sex is so, so unhealthy for young women, and it drives me absolutely insane to watch young girls get gaslit into thinking they're being "clingy" to demand minimal respect from sex partners.
Young women today are getting a raw deal, and we have been since the 2000s (when I came of age). Just wanted to vent.