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DiscussionAccidentally Clocked a TiF
Well, I just ruined some young woman's day. I had to stop in at the bank to perform a wire transfer. Upon entering a clearly female voice welcomed us in, and I responded and started walking toward the open teller window (couldn't see the teller).
My friend who accompanied me asked who I was talking to and I said and signed, "The nice lady over there". Well...it was a TiF. I watched this young lady who was clearly trying to present as fully male just emotionally crumple. They'd had a mastectomy but were still so clearly female especially when she had to get up to walk to the printer.
We (teller and I) chatted, performed my transfer and at the end of it all she asked, quietly: was it obvious? I felt even worse when answering honestly, "yes".
Getting in the car it just struck me how sad it all is, to see such a beautiful young lady who had cut off her breasts and permanently damaged herself for...what? I feel sad as well that I clearly broke her heart but I couldn't bring myself to lie.
Maybe that's why so many go so far? It's really crummy in person to run into a TiF and have to shatter their illusions. People just don't want to make others feel badly so they "go along"? I don't know, but it's very sad for both of us (myself and TiF) for very different reasons.
Profiles like this make up at least 50% percent of the HER app nowadays 🤣
They need to change the name to SHIM
Or TIM.