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Need Advice or SupportThere is a transwomen in my all female domestic abuse support group.
I have left an abusive relationship and I am receiving support from a domestic abuse charity. I am doing a course called the freedom program which teaches you about the different aspects of abusive men. It is meant to be an all female course.
I do not want to be hateful to anyone as I believe that everyone who has experienced abuse can have access to support but I do feel quite uncomfortable about not being in an all female group. The person in question does not appear to have had any surgery and until I saw their name at the bottom of the screen I thought they were a man. I felt quite panicky and wanted to leave the group (it is on zoom due to the pandemic).
We are not meant to talk about anything that happens in the group anywhere because of confidentiality but some of the things they have said have made me feel uncomfortable. My ex used to threaten to commit suicide if I didn’t do what he wanted and this person has also made comments about threatening to commit suicide. I feel worried that I won’t be able to talk about some of my experiences in the group. I want to leave but I have been advised that I need to complete the program as my ex has threatened to take me to court over child custody and it looks good to have done the programme (and bad to be a drop out). What would you do?
That sounds fascinating!