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DiscussionI think I found the secret to (mostly) women's only spaces
I have started getting involved in local non-profits.
This is purely anecdotal, and not sure if it's tied to my specific non-profits--but the meetings have been 99% WOMEN.
If you're looking to find other women, why not go to the place women have always been? Organizing and working to make the world a better place. That has always been considered "women's work," almost all large movements have been started by women, and the remnants of that I think are still showing today.
I'm involved in very niche environmental non-profits. They deal with native plants, but often get pegged as simply for "wildflowers"--which isn't at all true--but it largely helps I think keep them attracting women. From the top down--all women. Maybe less that 5% men. And no gender bullshit, these are science minded women engaged with the natural world--something I think is just inherently opposed to gender ideologists.
I'm not sure if this is true everywhere, but the three places I'm involved in it certainly is. I would imagine "women focused" non-profits may be infiltrated as they see it as a way to validate themselves. But I've had a lot of luck with ecology, sustainability, native plants and restoration.
Ecology, sustainability, native plants and restoration seem like topics that would appeal to people whose values are diametrically opposed to those who ride the gender train....
You sound really awesome! I have a lot of the same interests.
What drives me crazy in spaces like that, is when 1 man will come in, see a room full of women, and think to himself "No one is in charge here". Then he gets all high and mighty and starts "suggesting" all sorts of things, then seems to get upset when everyone doesn't hop to!
Men will totally see such situations and try to swoop in and take credit for everything the women have achieved together. It has made me very sus of men wanting to come in and "help" at the last stage of a project!
Native plants and gardens are such a wonderful cause!! Do you mind if I DM you to talk to you more about it?
Cat charities too. Too many men have ridiculous ideas that it’s unmanly to like cats. Dude, what’s unmanly is thinking your pets define your masculinity. This is why I hate the trend of gang bangers getting (and mistreating) dogs they think are ‘hard’. I’ve seen them wandering about, not even using a proper lead but a bulky chain for that extra ‘macho’ factor.
I hate it when people treat animals like accessories. Chihuahuas, pitbulls, and miniature breeds seem to get it the worst.
Men tend to hate cats because they're less trainable than dogs. They can't stand the idea of a creature they can't use and control.
I did something very similar. I love the field of child development and every area of the field (from direct services to research) is female dominated. I was in a year long paid leadership incubator that was 99% female both participants and faculty. At my jobs all my bosses and most of my coworkers and supervisors (99%) were other women. We made great money and didn’t have to deal with men. It’s Heaven.
I didn't know there were non-profits specifically for native plants.
There are! There are also usually gardening groups in your area of people who are experimenting with growing them/spreading the gospel!
There are quite a few, maybe not specifically for native but it ends up being functionally the same. If you look up your ecoregion and conservation efforts, you will likely find native plant guides, orgs, and non profits
This is accurate in my experience! I volunteer at a social services-type nonprofit and 90% of everybody there is female with the remaining 10% being nice old retired dudes. There's def some performative wokeness among the staff (they've all got matching pronouns on their cards/nametags, LOL) but everybody else is super down to earth.
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chance of tims, lol. We need a TiM forecast like we need the weather forecast, to plan our days.
You may be on to something. As long as the non-profit does not center women and women's concerns, most men who self - identify as women are not going to be bothered. And, it may even be possible to center women's concerns obliquely in such settings. We're certainly not winning many battles when it comes to ensuring that woman-centered institutions remain women-centered - these are the focus of most gender ideology campaigners, and there they put up furious fights...with the backing of so-called human rights non-profits (ACLU, I'm looking at you!), illiberal "liberal" major media outlets, government agencies, and major corporations...not to mention Big Tech and social media platforms.
also knitting and crafts! all the meetups are open to everyone but its only women who go in reality! and you dont even need to be good at it, its mostly social
Also found this to be true in most yoga and dance classes, and nearly anything focused on deep inner psycho-spiritual work.
Ive been looking for an organization that deals solely in saving endangered plants. If you feel comfortable messaging me the name, id really love to get involved.
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Yep, too self-centered . . .