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QuestionAny other non-drinkers here?
Disclaimer: I really would only like responses from people who don’t drink on this post. I don’t want it derailed with “I drink and I’m not like ____,” and such. Please.
I haven’t drank in over 3 years. My parents are both alcoholics and I only think alcohol is pure evil now. Just thinking about the millions of deaths, car accidents, property damage, and so on it has caused (and will continue to cause), makes me both furious and hopeless. My soul weeps when I think of all the little girls whose dads came home smelling like alcohol and did awful things to them. The women who get beat up and even murdered by their drunk boyfriends and husbands... (not blaming alcohol for the behavior, but it certainly doesn’t help. It just makes men even worse than they already are.)
I’m just frustrated and often feel alone for not drinking. My state is known for the alcohol culture here (embarrassingly). I myself only use marijuana; I don’t think they are anything similar.
This post was brought on by a conversation I had with my friend just now who I will define as an alcoholic. Words were said that I don’t think would’ve been said if the person was not drinking, even if it was “just two beers.” (“Just two beers” still cause an altered mental state; “just two beers” reduce inhibition, even with heavy tolerance.)
I hate how this is the most socially acceptable drug. I honestly hate that it’s legal. I’m sad that prohibition ended (though I understand why it did). In my perfect world, alcohol wouldn’t exist.
Idk... can anyone else relate?
And I’m sure I’m offending some people with this post somehow, so am prepared for downvotes... lol. 😅 That’s fine tbh. I don’t mind.
I just would like to know I’m not the only sober GC woman out there!!
Edit: Thank you for all your responses so far, this thread has made me feel so much better and I don’t feel so alone anymore. <3
Edit 2: My sanity is being restored by your responses, lol... ahh, thank you.
those things are just stereotypes that come from a long and complicated history with misogyny and backwards traditions
Yes
But now can they understand that stereotypes shouldn't force other people to pretend and give males access to female only spaces and force everyone to go along with an ideology that believes in using "men" and "non-men"
Hmmmm. Despite the T reference, I can't help wondering if grizzcat is a stealth terf trying to deprogram the brainwashed women of r/agender......
I'm not even really trying to rag on these two in particular. I just want to feel some optimism, and I think it's young women and girls like this who feel how wrong the idea of gender is. And maybe I'm projecting some, because I see myself being able to fall for some of this if I grew up completely inundated with its propaganda and believing it to be the truth. But, I broke out of religious programming and I eventually shed my teenage NLOG phase, and that's how I know it's not impossible to move forward. And it starts with these small discomforts and doubts.
"I want to be seen as just a human and not a woman" we all do! It's misogyny that makes people see us as less than human because we are women. None of us want that. And if you feel that sick feeling watching men put on a woman costume and act like what their porn addled brain thinks a woman should be, know that they don't get to decide what women really are. They are liars and charlatans. Woman is a descriptor of your body, nothing more or less. You are free to be whoever you want. Do whatever you want. Act however you want. None of that matters and none of that is relevant to "womanhood"
How can you recognize this but still embrace gender ideology?