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RantI found out my bf (at the time) is a pedophile
I had been with him almost 5 years when I found the CSAM pictures on his phone. That was a bit more than 2 years ago. I looked through his phone one night while he was asleep (the only time that I had done that). I took photos with my phone as evidence and left the apartment. He never even noticed.
I made a police report two days later. Covid back then was still a concern so I had to find a way to make an online police report. I had originally wanted to make an in-person report, but that wasn't possible. It was only online. As I was making the report and going through the evidence I had, I found more and more heinous things. My report was a mess but I got through it. I was called in to make a statement in-person two days after the online report.
Long story short: his place got raided and his electronic devices confiscated. His parents saw all of it. His mother blamed me for not telling her first. My ex ended up getting probation for 1 year. The police confirmed it to me that he did have CSAM.
I don't even know why I'm writing this. I've been wanting to post my experience since it happened. I lost all of my closest friends because they told me that it was not big deal, and I didn't accept that. I've made other friends since then, and they agree that I made the right choice by reporting him.
I don't know. I've been SA before. By my dad too. But this kind of betrayal I have a hard time processing. I went to a therapist too. It just feels fucked to me that we, as a society, are letting people like my ex walk free. I'm angry, I feel betrayed, I'm hurt.