(I'm not really sure the best place to post this so I'm posting here. I think it would have been good in like a videos circle but we only have a feminist videos circle.)

So I've known of this YouTube channel called HealthyGamerGG. I think I've watched one of his videos, and now I've gotten recommended several other ones of his in my feed. Most of the time I thought they were pretty okay, I didn't really watch them, the titles seemed fine. I thought it was nice that there was a man on YouTube who was trying to promote mental health in men.

Then, this one titled "Boundaries Don't Work - Here's Why" popped up on my feed, and I got some alarm bells in my head. At first I thought maybe it's a clickbait title, but reading the description made it appear even worse:

Today we are going to talk about why setting healthy boundaries is idiotic and seldom times doesn't work. I know this sounds crazy but setting healthy boundaries usually doesn't work. It only really works if you have power in that situation.

After reading this, I had to look up more about this guy. His name is Alok and he is a "Harvard-trained psychiatrist." The fact that he's a psychiatrist kind of sets off more alarms for me, because I don't have the best opinion of psychiatrists, I feel like they treat symptoms and ignore deep-rooted mental health issues.

Alok Kanojia, 37, is known as “Dr. K” to his fans, 370,000 of whom tune into his monetized Twitch livestream “Healthy Gamer GG” where he discusses issues like online harassment, depression and self-criticism with popular gaming guest stars. He also runs a YouTube channel with the same name that's monetized through ads.

So he is using his psychiatrist credentials to make money on Twitch and YouTube. He has sponsorships for NordVPN, if that explains anything about his highly tech-centric male-centric audience. He also advertises his paid life coaching service.

Is it just me, or is this guy not giving healthy advice? I can't imagine a mental health professional recommending to people to not set healthy boundaries. It appears that one of his video sections is to "be weak." Another is "separate emotions from actions," and another is titled "dissociation," which I tried to skip through and it looks like there was no mention of disassociation but instead rambling about how our "rational mind" can be hijacked by emotion? Maybe I skipped over one of the mentions of dissociation but idk. He seems to be kind of "anti-emotion," which is strange because a lot of my therapy has been focused on being able to acknowledge emotion and give emotion space to be felt.

This video sets off alarms in my head because it's a man suggesting to a wide YouTube audience, which may include young women, to not even try to set boundaries, because they "don't work," and apparently instead to "be weak."

So in one aspect I'm concerned because I feel like this is setting up women to not create or enforce boundaries, when that's really a lot of what women need to do, especially with men. And then what concerns me is the men who are probably his primary audience, who see this video and decide that women who set boundaries are stupid because a YouTube doctor told them "boundaries are stupid."

I'm going to be completely honest and say I didn't watch the video in full, because of the title and the description. If anyone wants to watch it and explain maybe I'm misunderstanding his video, I would welcome that.

Am I misinterpreting this video? Or does anyone else feel like it is concerning?