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Interesting story from work today, even more interestingly, on the heels of the recent AWWA period campaign mishap, and how I actually even commented on a couple of posts relating to that on here.
I'm a public librarian. A young teenage girl came up to the reference desk this afternoon and asked in a quiet voice, "do you guys have any pads?" Not a common request, but it does happen. We do keep a stash for this scenario so I handed one over to her as discreetly as I could; she was very thankful and I thought that was the end of it.
About 40 minutes later, another woman came up to the desk and told me there was a girl in a stall in the women's washroom, and had been there for a long time. (The same backpack was on the floor.) I went and checked; there was only one occupied stall and sounded like crying. I knocked on the door and asked if she was okay, and the door actually opened. It was the same teen, she was just standing there with her jacket tied around her waist. Looking kind of freaked out.
She told me it was her first period; she’d bled through her pants and was miserable. I asked if she was okay, if she had her cell with her (she did, and she had a friend from their high school coming with clothes and Ibuprofen.) I asked if she wanted company until her friend got there, she said yes. I introduced myself, chatted a bit with her about mine, but didn’t want to overwhelm her or anything. Her friend showed up, she cheered up quite a bit, and they both left, and the teen turned to me and thanked me, and I said no problem, “we’ve all been there.” She gave me the biggest smile at that.
About an hour later there was a phone call to the front desk: it was the girl’s mother asking for me by name, and thanking me. It was a pleasant call, and lovely to hear thanks, but that’s not the point of the story. The point is:
This girl was embarrassed, and your first time, even if mentally somewhat prepared, is always a shock. I just kept thinking the entire time: what if we didn’t have separate washrooms? This girl, in this moment, needed privacy and some gentle reassurance, and women who understood. What if that wasn’t the case? If she didn’t have a private, actual safe space for that experience? Do we really live in a society where this 13/14 year-old girl would be called transphobic if she were to be vocally grateful for this space?
I'm not sure if I feel inspired by this or defeated. Lol. Either way, it felt important.
Recently had a bicurious exfriend lead me on and use me as her emotional dishrag while she rode some abusive scrotes cock on the side, so oh boy do I feel this.
It truly feels dehumanizing at times, like they think lesbians don't have the same full-fledged feelings about love and sexuality that hetero people do.
It's because they don't care about our feelings. It's best not to give these women any attention.
I think people aren't use to real lesbians. They look at me crazy because I've never been with a man and have no desire too. Bi girls are the default
As a gold star lesbian, this is exactly my experience as well. Truth is we are very few and are easily outnumbered by bi women thinking or pretending to be lesbians or confused girls who think they're lesbians because they had some trouble with men and think women are oh "perfect".
This entire movement is degrading, and my hope tends to wane rather than wax. I've posted here before about how I occasionally feel tempted to "transition" purely for the sake of acceptance and support. It isn't that different from my days of dating men with the purpose of changing my orientation altogether.
I'm tired of getting kicked out of LGBT spaces for not being physically attracted to trans women. I'm not excluding them from activities, just not being attracted to them.
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This! Biwomen are so entitled beyond belief. They are greedy as hell. They want to have their cake and eat it too. Makes my blood boil!
They call us monsters because we do set boundaries. We say no.
The only way the AGP het men who larp as "lesbians" get to be with us is by coercive rape. Because we say no to all men, including them.
The only way bi women who are in relationships with men get to be with us is by deception, not telling us they are with a man. Because we would say no.
Bicurious? Same thing. Let them experiment with each other. We say no. We say no when another lesbian wants to flee womanhood to play make-believe "man" and have us call ourselves bi to "validate" her delusion. We say no.
A woman saying no is the one thing the world won't tolerate. It enrages men who can't cope with not getting the sex they feel entitled to. It enrages women who dick pander and spend their lives with men even when they have a choice not to - if we are not suffering along with them, the least we can do is give them some relief from their nigels. And it enrages our poor deluded sisters who think we should go along with a life of damaged body and soul to pretend they are something they can never be.
We say no to all of it. And we should continue to say no because yes to any of it only brings damage to us personally and as a community.
Brilliantly said! Some lesbians are amazons, we are not sheeple just doing what we're told, and that is what ruffles feathers. Not being embraced by males or the gbtq's do not frustrate me, instead it makes me think that I'm doing something right. Do we really want the alphabet soup community and perverts to sing our praises? I certainly don't want their validation or acceptance. This situation reminds me a bit of that saying "well behaved women seldom make history".