Hello, everyone. I guess I should warn you before you keep reading that this story contains exhibitionism without consent.

This happened a few years ago and I don't want to go into much detail but I still have this on my mind and it's kind of haunting me.

So, I went on a trip to Dublin with two friends, a man and a woman my age, who didn't know each other beforehand. Due to issues with our reservation we ended up having to sleep together on a king sized bed. I was on the side, with a friend in the middle and another friend at the other side of the bed. One of this friends has a exhibitionism kink, which was mentioned at the beginning of the trip (and ended up being foreshadowing 😒).

So, a few days go by without problem until I start to notice a lot of sexual tension between them. I was uncomfortable and let them know, which only led to one of them poking fun at me after that. I think the poking fun part was an attempt to gaslight me into thinking I was imagining things, and it was successful. They even touched each other as a "joke", telling me I was exaggerating, and later both told me separately that they were actually enjoying it sexually.

Now the important part. The last night of the trip, while I was sleeping in the same bed as them, with less than 30 cm of distance, they masturbated each other. I was unaware until a few weeks passed and we were all back at our homes, and I only knew because one of them felt bad and told me they "made out". I told the other friend, who confessed they actually masturbated each other.

I felt super disgusted. There was a bathroom they could have used, but they didn't, which leads me to believe I was used for my friend's exhibitionism fetish without consent. It was a small room with no ventilation, so I was sleeping for hours breathing "sex air" (I don't know how to call it in English, sorry). And they tried to keep it from me, but when one of them told me he only told a half truth so that he could feel better about himself without actually telling me what happened, and I had to force the information out of them. One of them apologized, the other one used "but that was not the real me!" as an excuse.

At this point I was feeling the biggest amount of anger I've ever felt, since I'm usually a very calm person. I told some common friends (different friend group for each of them) because I wanted to warn them to be wary of traveling or sleeping near either of them. Suddenly I became the bad guy for these two people because "it was a private matter and I don't have the right to tell them".

I ended up blocking both of them and haven't talked to either again. It was very painful, they were very close to me. I don't know what I'm looking for posting this, if it's advice, reassurance or if I just want to rant. It's been a long time and I should have forgotten but I think about it many nights while trying to sleep.

Did I overreact? What should I have done? Is this sexual harassment at all? If not, does it have a name?

Thank you for taking your time to read this

Edit to clarify: the ones who said it was a private matter were the two people who did it, not the friend groups! The friend groups sided with me, although they are still friends with those two people! I apologise for the confusion