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Need Advice or SupportCoping when sexualized by family members
I developed early and have always been very curvy. I sometimes get improper comments or actions from people which I don't let bother me. But I do get treated differently by my family and I'm still trying to figure out how to cope with this.
For example, when I was a child my dad was never affectionate towards me. But now that I'm a developed woman he will hug me and kiss my head/cheek multiple times a day, but knowing he never did that when I was a kid really makes my skin crawl at the implication. If I wasn't a pretty young woman I know he wouldn't do that. I haven't confronted him bc he would turn it around to make himself the victim and then pout and make it a big issue.
I may start wearing a cropped hoodie with the hood up at the house. When people touch my head/arms it really makes my skin crawl (sensory thing). Im not able to deny hugs and kisses, without being seen as very rude and facing possible backlash, due to a cultural thing. But I won't be able to move out for about a year. As long as they aren't making skin contact I can brush it off.
I also remember being told by aunts to cover up more at the beach as a developing 12 year old.
Can any other women share their experiences, and how they have coped with this or confronted this?
Me post lockdown. I've part forgotten how to dress myself and part stopped giving the last bit of a shit about what people think are well matched outfits.
I’m just glad to be back where there’s actual changes of season so I’m not stuck in dreary tee shirts all the time, and where there are places to go (okay mostly hospital appointments so far, but still) so it’s worth putting on something nice!
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Yes! More due to climate and there being anywhere to go for me (the town I lived near before was tiny, now I’m in a regional city) than lockdown. Restrictions here have been lifted, masks are only for hospitals and public transport now. I can’t imagine what it was like during the worst of it, or for people in much harder-hit countries. I know the second lockdown in Melbourne was hard on my friends there.
My favorite small detail about the Labyrinth is how clouds of glitter sometimes announce Jareth's arrival XD
Mine is all the real chickens, they really were the stars.
Did you ever watch Return to Oz?
I have not! Is there a good chicken presence?
In that film (and the book it's based on of course), instead of Toto, Dorothy has a chicken companion named Billina. Billina is from Dorothy's farm and gains the power of speech in Oz, and is played using a very realistic puppet... and a live chicken, depending on the shot. The film is kind of dark and twisted, in that '80s way that was popular at the time, but it's so worth it just for Billina alone. She carries the film. She gets a happy ending, too, opting to stay in Oz rather than "go back to that dust bowl".
It sounds amazing! I will totally be watching this and join the Billina fan club.