I had a moment of weakness over the past weekend when I was talking with a friend. Basically, all my female friends in the past year have gotten boyfriends, save one who lives in an other state and is a lesbian who is also dating. I was fine with it for about a year, but obviously my time with friends has been slashed in half as they all divide their time between their boyfriends and and our friends. I was still kind of fine, as I haven't really wanted to put in the work to find a man who would fit my incredibly high, nonnegotiable standards, but then it hit me that my only long term relationship ended because my partner transed, and he's just such a scumbag that the idea that he would be the only and last person I dated tipped me over the edge. So my friend helped me make a hinge profile and we swiped to find an abysmally low number of potential men.

Then upon talking to them I quickly realized that they are allergic to asking questions about me. I know it wasn't disinterest in the conversation, because no matter what questions I asked they would reply pretty quickly and with in depth detail. But they would almost never ask questions back, and on the rare occasions when they did, I would reply, ask another question to keep the conversation going, and then the cycle would repeat. I just ended up abandoning all the conversations and deleting the app. I'm awake again and realize that it simply is not worth my time and attention to sift through millions of mediocre, boring, and, frankly, unkempt and ugly men. And obviously women across the globe feel similarly, just look at Korea's 4B movement.

I matched with fairly attractive men but they weren't models or anything. I gave them plenty of interest and opportunity to make connection and have interesting discussions. One of them I thought was genuinely really cute, I liked his answers to my questions, and he was a native speaker of a language I am learning for fun. I gave him more chances than I had the others because of the potential I made up in my head, but the conversation still went nowhere without me pushing it forward, so I abandoned it.

All of this to say, men are creating their own loneliness epidemic because they are incapable of showing any fucking interest in others! Somehow despite eons and eons of mistreatment from men, women are still way more willing to give men more chances than they deserve. Women still see men as people, and therefore are able to treat them as such and show interest in them. But men can't even ask a simple question to show they give a shit. Not even in the format of "Answer to your question. How about you?" It's so easy to give a shit, yet they don't!

I'm so sick of guests on podcasts I listen to go off about how lost men are, or reading think pieces where a man is going on and on about how sad men are, and basically berating women for withholding our companionship from men as if we are just sentient resources withholding ourselves and not full-fledged people!! Female companionship is an earned privilege, not a right! We're begging you to do better and you refuse!

What also drives me crazy is that men LOVE to bang on about biology and nature to use as excuses for their wacko dating preferences, violence, and pedophilic tendencies/straight up pedophilia. Yet, they cannot see that us women are actually exercising our most basic natural right of mate selection and choosing what traits are worthy of reproduction. There is nothing more natural than us choosing not to engage with men who are absolute losers and bring nothing to the table. It is not our fault that as a population, men are getting worse. Again, we're giving you clear indications that something is wrong, that we don't want to engage with you. But instead of trying to fix those things and be better, you scream, you cry, you DEMAND we engage with you. And what's attractive about that? Nothing!!

Before my ex lost his mind and showed his true face, I was really happy being in a relationship. I slept better with a partner beside me. I enjoyed that type of romantic companionship a lot, and I hate to admit that I miss it a lot. I would love to have it again, but I just can't see it happening since men my age (of all ages, probably) are absolute nightmares to be around. And because they suck so hard my first and last relationship is going to have been with a fucking TIM.

The loneliness epidemic goes both ways, women are just as fucking lonely. We just realize it's better to be fucking lonely than stuck with loser men who don't give a shit about us and can no longer even be bothered to hide that fact. So maybe just shut the fuck up about it and go improve yourself, like the large majority of lonely women, and stop blaming women for your problems!!