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Need Advice or SupportHusband and "the other hole"
Not sure what forum i can post this in, or if I should post at all bc TMI, but the anal sex discussion keeps coming up more frequently and it's starting to create a rift. It was casually mentioned, then more adamantly stated that he needs to try it before he dies, and then in an intimate moment where I say "we fit together nicely" he says all parts are made to and then teases the wrong hole.
He thinks bc he likes anal and he's heard from other women they like it to, then I'm missing out. Honestly I'd be happy with a massager and nothing else for the rest of my life and our drives are totally different so I make an effort. But this is too far for me. Ive even said he can cheat if he needs it that badly. But i hate that im not enough for him with what I am willing to do. And I hate that he says that means i dont love him enough because I draw that line.
Can anyone offer advice? Is this even the right forum? Im getting so on edge and sad about this...
The Little Girl and the Wolf
One afternoon a big bad wolf waited in a dark forest for a little girl coming along carrying a basket of food to her grandmother. Finally a little girl did come along and she was carrying a basket of food. 'Are you carrying that to your grandmother?' asked the wolf. The little girl said yes, she was. So the wolf asked where her grandmother lived and the little girl told him and he disappeared into the wood.
When the little girl opened the door of her grandmother's house she saw that there was somebody in bed with a nightcap and nightgown on. She had approached no nearer than twenty-five feet from the bed when she saw that it was not her grandmother but the wolf, for even in a night-cap a wolf does not look any more like your grandmother than the Metro-Goldwyn lion looks like Calvin Coolidge. So the little girl took an automatic out of her basket and shot the wolf dead.
Moral: It is not so easy to fool little girls as it used to be.
James Thurber
(This is a fairy-story. No-one is advocating for actual violence here. We're not transgender powerlifters, after all. But I see this as the little girl starting as a libfem and ending as a radfem.)
Interesting. Thurber published this "updated" version of the tale a few years after WW2, so I wonder whether "little Girls were less easy to fool" partly as a result of the WW2 Rosie the Riveter legacy.
A good immersive lesson in cultural history can be had from considering exactly what was the "before" picture—the place now occupied by libfemmery, making little Girls easier to fool—at that time.
There are quite a few semiautomatics that make good purse pistols, like the Glock 19 and its cousins, but this little Girl goes hard on Her Second Amendment rights if She's toting a full auto—so, basically a machine gun—around in Her picnic basket😀
I think that even US usage wobbles a bit on this one. I've heard 'automatic' used when technically it's semi. (Says the woman who last time she held a gun in her hand won a goldfish.)
I’ve thought about Red Riding Hood being a warning about men and their predatory and gaslighting ways. What about the Huntsman who cuts the wolf’s heart out? I just don’t think there are that many protective men around. Would it be better or would it be unrealistic if Red Riding Hood saved herself through cunning by somehow tricking the wolf?
What about the Huntsman who cuts the wolf’s heart out?
In Your reading of the story, this is probably best taken as a somber reminder that Women—and civilized society itself—ultimately depend on a critical mass of good men to keep the bad men in check.
Along the same lines as the "good men stay out so bad men stand out" principle underlying the importance of maintaining robust social norms underlying single-sex spaces, over and above maintaining the existence of those spaces themselves.
Without a doubt, that folk tale is a warning to girls about men, but I have absolutely come to believe that it is specifically abojt AGP and possibly about the connection between AGP and serial killers.
Yes I've been thinking the same these last few weeks. Children's folk stories are some of the most profound stories there are, like Peter and the Wolf (don't lie) and Baba Yaga (young girl only becomes strong once she faces the witch)
They’re so useful in understanding human nature and in conveying deep time stories and truth.