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Need Advice or SupportHe passed away.
Hi, ladies, you may remember my post from three weeks ago asking for help regarding how to support my husband while his brother was dying. I really appreciated all the kindness and wisdom from you all, and it was very helpful. I greatly appreciated the advice for my husband to go visit ASAP, because he would get worse and unable to communicate before passing. This turned out to be true.
My husband's brother passed away last night. I am so grateful that he was able to be with his family in his last weeks. He didn't want to die, and almost to the very end he was talking about getting back to work. But his body couldn't support him any longer. It is my belief that he held on to be present for a significant anniversary date (which he was!), and then was ok with letting go after that.
I am frustrated and maybe feeling guilty that I wasn't able to be there, but I am trying to reframe it that by staying at home to take care of our pets, I enabled my husband to be there for his last weeks and right up to the end.
My husband is on his way home right now, and I will see him tonight. I'm not sure how he'll be doing, or, again, how to support him. We haven't spoken much (mostly texting) the last three weeks due to the time difference and the hospital visits.
I again want to support my husband, but I'm hurting too right now. I could again use some advice and support from you all, if you are willing to give it. Thank you, kind community.