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RantAppreciating Ovarit: I Was Reminded Once Again of WHY We Need It
Mini rant + appreciation post for this forum.
I visited the vile corner of the internet known as reddit for advice in a moment of weakness. Bad decision, but I was consumed my immense anxiety about my future education (I'm 20 and still can't afford uni), so I decided to post on a forum for people who are struggling financially just like me.
As a woman in an Islamic country, my job opportunities (and life in general lmao) are severely restricted. In my vent post -- which I posted with the specific VENT FLAIR, which said NO ADVICE right next to it -- I mentioned this important detail because I knew that a 20 year old woman complaining about her broke parents might be perceived weirdly by people not familiar with my shitty culture. Either way, I wanted to heard because the sooner I get financial independence, the sooner I can be independent from my abusive conservative parents, so this was a topic that made me quite emotional.
I was wrong to ever visit that hellsite. I was bombarded by comments calling me whiny and that I need to get a job... I was called whiny and told that I need to get a job in response to a post in which I lamented about my lack of human rights in an Islamic country (which naturally limits my job opportunities) as a woman living with broke as fuck parents on a forum for broke people. You can guess the gender of most of the commenters. Oh, and they were mostly American lol. Luckily a few people were empathetic (a man among them, surprisingly).
In that moment, I realized once again that where men exist, women don't have a voice. I truly, truly hate men and very few are nice (hell, they're only nice to me now that I've lost 11 kg, before that I was treated like shit).
Remember this instance everytime a man tries to tell you that he only hates western feminists cuz they're "loud and annoying," and that they understand why women like me would need "feminism" -- they're lying. Men don't care about us and our issues mean nothing to them. They don't care if you're a woman in Copenhagen or a woman in a remote Pakistani village -- it doesn't matter. Your crime is being a woman, and you'll always be hated for it.
So here's my advice to all of you here: don't ever feel guilty for hating them.
But this instance made me appreciate this site even more. When I vented about my problems here in previous posts or comments, I always got support. In fact, I was so surprised that some people even offered to find solutions for me here. I've never been heard or valued the way I have been here. Women truly need to be each other's best friends in this dark little world.
I thank you all so much for maintaining and supporting this beautiful community. I know this forum mainly exists because men pretending to be women in the West became a real problem, but I also wanted to add that people like me benefit from it too. <3