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Need Advice or SupportHow do you not let fear control you? I need advice on how to be brave and courageous as a woman in 2024.
I have always been a very fearful person. Looking at my life it makes absolutely so much sense that I fear everything and everyone, but at 31 I have not lived.
I always dreamt of moving to another country for a few years to experience a different lifestyle and practice the many languages I speak. But being from Slovenia, one of the top 10 safest countries in the world, where things are as great as they can possibly get for a woman or any other person really, I always found a reason to stay.
Now, in 2024, without going into details because I don't think I am allowed to talk about those things in this sub (lol), I am getting more and more fearful and discouraged that I will ever experience life outside of my country.
Last october opened my eyes to many things that sadly still persist in our part of the world, and combining this realization with how women are treated by the same people who are claiming they want to uplift us so much, I just don't know what to do.
My lovely country seems so safe compared to others. It is small and safe and all the bad people can be avoided because there are only 2mil of us, and I can enjoy my privilege (that many women in many similar countries sadly do not).
For a while now I have been looking into buying land somewhere in the countryside, getting a house and just garden and read and share a home with companion animals for the rest of my life. You know, to stay safe. Alone and safe.
But is this really life? Is this really what I should, or could, do as a woman? I used to dream of founding a tech company (this was probably my biggest dream for a big part of my life) and travel the world and live abroad, and then I opened my eyes and saw reality. It was not pretty and idealistic.
It was scary.
So I ask you, ladies, who have most likely lived lives much more exciting than mine has been so far, and who have so much more courage than I do, how do I not let fear control me?
How do I stand up and stand against what seems like the whole world who is trying to get me?
I know women are brave and my ancestors have gone through way too much for me to be so weak and scared, but I do not know how to channel them. I do not know how to be as brave as they were.
I'm sure many of them had Borderline and anxiety too, but I also know they had a spine, which got lost somewhere along the way while I was being put together in the womb.
How to be brave? Any advice, or even a resource?
Thank you so much!