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Need Advice or SupportGetting pro-Breastfeeding women to let me BF in peace
First live born baby I could not nurse (bad d-mer that made me suicidal)
Second live born baby I was able to breastfeed by triple feeding for over 5 months (yes you read that right). During this time I mostly stayed at home because triple feeding is a lot and it's a lot of supplies to haul out.
But the biggest reason I stayed at home is it would be so difficult to get privacy while nursing.
Women (thankfully never met a pervert guy dumb enough to do anything but shut up and wander off) will aggressively push for me to just... "Oh just feed her here. No need to hide! It's fine. Don't even worry about a cover, baby's gotta breathe!"
The focus was always on if I was going to make her feel uncomfortable by nursing in the open.
My baby had a difficult latch. It was difficult getting the pump on. Especially for the pump, I would have to put it on, try out a few pulses, redo it, and repeat a few times.
And... Maybe I just don't want anyone seeing my boobs. "Oh there's nothing to be ashamed of!" I didn't say there was, I just said I didn't want to.
I only went through this ridiculous back and forth twice before giving up. Any time after that that I needed to nurse, I would just leave early to go back home.
Anyway, I'm now 22 weeks with third baby and I'm past the point that I lost my two others, so we are suspecting my chances of a live birth are high.
And my breasts are... Doing more work. They seem more like when I was 4/5 months into bfing second baby, and was able to supply 75 percent of her intake.
It seems promising to me that I might not have to triple feed and I might just be able to... Nurse.
But what can I say to get these aggressively pro-bf ladies off of my back. I asked if there was a nursing room, not for a lecture on how I shouldn't be ashamed of my body.