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QuestionHas anyone read "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections" by Emily Nagoski?
A friend of mine was telling me about this book today. She was raving about how great it is, and told me how she learned about "reactive" arousal... ie when you think you are not interested in sex, but if you engage in sexual activity your body responds and you enjoy it. I guess according to this book, most women have reactive arousal and we're all doing it wrong expecting to be turned on by our partners before we have sex.
She then said some unintelligible string of words that sounded like "we cisgender heterosexuals could learn a lot from the polyamorous kink and non-cishet communities about consent and boundaries and checking in with eachother" or some other nonsense, which I'm pretty sure came straight out of the book.
Has anyone read it or one of her other books? It sounded to me like just another one of those sex books written to gaslight women into getting over not wanting to have sex with men. Curious to hear your take, if you are familiar with it.