Yeah, not the most articulate title ever, I know and I'm sorry, wasn't really sure how to word what I have in mind to discuss/ask about. 😅

So, has anyone else ever experienced a kind of disapproval or judgement, from other women/in female spaces, when their sexual practices/preferences don't really align with the current dominant paradigms of female sexuality? I don't even necessarily mean sex-positivity as such, but more things that are, today, considered hallmarks of the liberated, pro-feminist woman.

Examples: the usage of sex toys, chasing after multiple orgasms, being all about clitoral stimulation and lowkey frowning upon penetrative stimulation.

I've definitely experienced being metaphorically 'looked at weird' for not really being into sex toys, for instance. And had women insist I just hadn't tried the right toy yet. It was weirdly pushy. And to be clear, I have zero issue with other women enjoying all sorts of sex toys (I do have a modicum of criticism in terms of things like consumerism and environmental concerns, but like that's not limited to sex toys of course), but like... outside of the occasional usage of a dildo, I just don't like them, and don't personally need them, and I don't see what the big deal is – but I guess they're so ubiquitous now that not really being all gaga about them as a woman is seen as weird.

I've experienced something similar when I shared that I actually preferred orgasms that resulted from some form of penetrative stimulation, and that I don't like direct clitoral stimulation (maybe autistic hypersensitivity is to blame, I dunno). It seems like some women take that as an attack, or a betrayal, since PIV benefits men (but like, you can also penetrate with fingers, so...) and it devolves into that tired old argument of clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms, which honestly just shouldn't be a thing anymore since so-called vaginal orgasms are internal clitoral orgasms in any case (but a lot of women aren't up-to-date on the anatomy there, tbh, it's kinda sad).

Then multiple orgasms... that one I've had both from women and men. It seems to have become almost mandatory for women to have them now?? It's kinda bizarre. But I just... don't really experience them, and the very few times I've had like, two in a row, sort of, it honestly just wasn't worth it lol (again, maybe it's an autistic hypersensitivity thing)? And it's kinda wild how I've borderline been seen as a freak of nature for having that take, even though I'm not at all saying other women shouldn't pursue getting güd at that if that's what they want. 😅 It's just very common to see the idea that women have so much better sex because multiple orgasms and I'm over here being all like: is it doe? 😅 I mean again, more power to others with that, but I've been happy with one 99.99% of the time. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

I totally get being critical of previous, male-dominate narratives around female sexuality, OF COURSE! It's absolutely necessary! But at the end of the day though, if it's healthy/non-harmful, why judge each other's preferences so harshly? Like, I don't get it, isn't part of the point to recognise the individual humanity of women, and the fact we're also all different with stuff like this?

Anyways, curious to see other's experiences with/thoughts on this!